Hey fam,
I wanted to share my story with you all on this subreddit, especially for those of you who are waiting on claims (especially COD) and feeling like giving up. I know firsthand how tough and frustrating this entire claim journey can be, but I hope my experience can offer some encouragement.
For background - I was what's called a Navy "Seabee". Most of my shipmates would know what rate that is, and those in other branches that worked with the civil engineers would know as well. Basically, I was a construction worker for the Navy. I had no idea when I enlisted in 2008. I am going to use a bunch of acronyms, i'm sorry.
Being that I was just 18 and pretty dumb, I also forgot we were knee-deep in a massive war lmao. I dropped out of senior year of HS to get my GED and joined at a mall in my hometown lol (remember malls?). I did so well at my "A" school in Texas, the Navy assigned me orders to a command named CSSD-1. This command technically fell under the SOCOM umbrella and NSWG-1. I was on Sea Duty at the time. I was told my 4 years of Sea Duty would be at this command, then another 4 years on Shore Duty at some other command. Either way, when I arrived in Coronado and met my COC, I was instructed to not get comfy and that we would be leaving for 6-9 months to Iraq. I believe I arrived at the command in Nov of 08. I deployed for the entire summer of 09 starting in March.
With just my command, I deployed with 6 key members. These Seabees were all E-5+. I was an E-2. I deployed with ST-7 and EOD Mobile Unit 5 as well as ST-10 and EOD Unit 12 from the east coast with the crew from CSSD-2. I barely met the folks from the east coast. However, in late April, Tyler with EOD Unit 12 and some other devil dog brothers were KIA from IEDs. After that incident, they instructed me that I would need to start convoy driving ASAP in support of the teams. I was terrified, but I did it.
Fast-forward, my COC at CSSD-1 kept secrets and seemed to drown out whatever emotions and feelings they were experiencing from being with the teams with alcohol and other substances. I followed suite. I was also instructed in Germany that whatever we saw and experienced with the teams, especially when I was providing convoy security, stayed in Iraq and didn't come home. So I listened the best I could.
Literally 2 months after getting back from Iraq, I was a full-blown alcoholic and starting an addiction to pain medicine that was prescribed to me from a corpsman while still in theatre. I actually got super skinny and really sick the last few months of deployment for some reason. I told my Chief about my issues. I mainly noticed issues when I started driving back in the states while on leave. My command knew something was wrong. They knew about the drinking. I drank with my Chief lol. I told them I had issues from when I was a convoy driver. However they always told me the same thing - "it happens", "you'll figure it out", "you're young still kid". However, soon after I started talking about my issues, I got orders to go to NMCB 3 in northern Calif, because "it would be good for my Naval career".
They sent me to a training command in Gulfport, MS with a bunch of brand, spanking-new recruits. I didn't start to get into actual trouble until we started doing convoy training drills and then I fucking lost it. I would start drinking whiskey at 8am or whenever it opened on base, and go till I got in trouble. I was the weird drunk dude that just hung out at the smoke pit lmao. My main NJPs were for being late to muster and showing up drunk, not shaving or cutting my hair and not obeying orders. I basically drunk 24/7. What really made it worse was when I turned myself in for "Spice". If any of you remember that stuff lol. I bought some at a gas station in Mobile, AL.
I literally handed it to Navy MPs one evening while hammered drunk and asked for help. They did help, somewhat. They sent me to a rehab, knocked me down in rank and put-in for automatic separation due to the Spice use and continuous substance use.
Before all the big troubles and going to the rehab, I saw a Navy medical doctor on base and told him about my drinking and anxiety, paranoia, etc. He placed me in a PTSD group which he later said in his paperwork that it was a "Stress" group and that I "alleged to have deployed" and that meeting him was "not deployment related". What I later found out was, nobody at this new command believed that I deployed to Iraq with the teams, and that I was making everything-up and trying to create this elaborate story so I didn't get in trouble I suppose. I even had an old, crusty Seabee reserve dude yell at me to take the uniform off because I didn't deserve to wear it? Lol I told him I didn't want to wear it anymore having to deal with all this shit.
It was after I got back from rehab when I relapsed because they told me they were kicking me out of the Navy to make an example out of me with an OTH discharge (not knowing what that was). I tried to take my own life, while on active-duty, and an older E-5 found me in the barracks convulsing. He stayed with me and called the base police. They took me to the hospital then transferred me to the Biloxi VA hospital and a VA medical doctor diagnosed me with Posttraumatic stress disorder, substance use disorder and personality disorder. When I returned back to base, the Navy discharged me with an OTH, handed me the DD-214 and sent me off on a Greyhound bus back to Phoenix.
I filed a claim with the VBA in 2011 (less than a year from discharge) and asked for a character of discharge review because I believed I was unjustly given an OTH because I obviously had some sort of mental health problems going on from service and was seeking services and help for said issues.
The VBA instantly denied the claim and said that my behavior was "willful and persistent" and that even though I did great in the Navy, got an EXW, NAM and a bunch of EPs, that I was basically still a screw-up that couldn't keep sober and honor is commitment. I forgot to mention that the folks that kicked me out in Mississippi also jacked up my DD-214. It doesn't show any awards, campaigns, ribbons, nothing. I had to prove that I was deployed to Iraq at various stages in my life which is not cool. Thankfully I kept record of everything including my EXW which was awarded to me while still in Iraq (pic attached).
Well I appealed the decision back in 2015. I saw a judge in 2020. She was incredible, listened to my whole story, made me do a bunch of work and exams and believed in me every step of the way. I believe I saw a total of 5 examiners before the main decision.
On April 11th, the Judge Granted the appeal and stated the following order: "The character of the Appellant's discharge from service does not constitute a bar to the receipt o f Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) benefits; the appeal is granted." (see attached).
I had a bunch of rating exams and I'm just waiting for some ratings now I suppose. It looked like they may have combined everything. Honestly, the money would be amazing and a huge blessing for my family (divorced with 2 girls), but honestly this whole time I just wanted HELP, to be validated and treated like an actual veteran because I put in fucking work! Sure, I made the choice to abuse drugs. But that's what I saw others doing and for the past 14 years it worked.
I stopped drinking in 2013. I haven't had booze since, but I'm still self medicating. One day at at time. Hopefully now I can get proper treatment and live a somewhat stable life. I was homeless, addicted to heroine. It was all bad. But I didn't give up! I kept fighting and hopefully someone hears this story and it helps them to keep fighting!

Me and my boyfriend met on snapchat, we liked each other so we went on a date the next day I just wanted my first kiss in my teenage so, he asked me to book tickets because he was broke and I did, he picked me up he was good at talking he made me feel comfortable within an hour as I am a introvert with social anxiety, we kissed in the theatre he confessed his love, a month later we had sex and it was my first time. He was all caring and nice he made me open up to him, I usually never share with anyone but he made me feel that I matter and my feelings are valid and he is there to listen to me. We had really good moments few months later we stopped meeting he just stays 25kms away from my house, he never really updated me, never called me back, never reacted to the reels I sent, never replied to the stories I used to post for him, the poems I used to write, the reels I used to edit for him. The only time he called me was when he needed money, after a whole day of ignoring my calls, msgs he used to call me and ask Hey bro do you have 200bucks? He never paid me back, I paid for all of our dates, he once booked movie tickets for us, he sometimes visited me at home so we can count the money he spent on the fuel. He took a shitload of money in a one year of the relationship. Whenever I used to bring up the topic of feeling lonely, having negative thoughts about the relationship, because he used to ignore me all day he used to say I have financial issues, I have to take care of myself, my parents are divorced you have your parents to take care of you, I have no one. I have health issues I have a pacemaker in my heart it gave up and stuff I didn't share with you because you would get sad and I would never want that. I found out that he texted 2 of my close friends on snapchat and he didn't know them but they told me what happened when I confronted him he said my friends took my phone, you know how they are they always use my phone, when I got concerned and asked if his friends ever checked our msgs he used to say no they will never do that. So I when he texted my friend on snapchat, she gave me the account and I talked to him he said, I WISH I HAD A GIRLFRIEND, I WAS NEVER IN A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, WHEN ARE WE SHARING A BEER, OFCOURSE I'LL PAY, WHAT IF I FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, I REALLY WANT TO MEET YOU TODAY
This man who never took me out on a date, planned it, or paid for it is talking like this to a random chick after being in a 1yr relationship with me. It broke my heart he asked for the girls photo but I kept avoiding that, I videocalled him by turning off my camera to makesure it is really him and yes he was the one who picked up the call. I sent a photo of us when he insisted that he wanted my picture and I texted goodbye and blocked him from everywhere. He said hey my friend took my phone it wasn't me who texted you, so I asked why would he use your account your name, your details, you photos to talk to a girl and make plans about meeting her the same day he said ya my friend does that, he gave me my phone when he got a videocall so I picked it up. When I asked him did I talk to your friend the first day when we made plans about meeting for a movie date he said OFCOURSE YOU TALKED TO MY FRIEND AND NOT ME.
Guys I really don't know what to do I wanna breakup, I want my money back, I am a crying mess I loved him, stood by him, helped him, fed him and did everything just to realize he is a fuckboy and the beginning of our relationship was with his friend 💔

Where I live it’s $70-$100 for a piercing other than your eaface, while you can get tools to pierce yourself online for $10. I understand the complications you can get from a bad piercing, my thing is that going to a professional does not keep you safe from complications, and if you want multiple piercings the cost adds up fast. A lot of the risk of piercings comes from how well you take care of it at home, which the piercer has no control over. There are also endless stories online of piercings rejecting or being placed incorrectly even if done by a professional. I understand this is an unpopular opinion because if it wasn’t piercers would go out of business, but I’d rather take the slightly higher risk to my health and do my piercings myself if it means saving $390 on the piercings I have planned (not including the expected 20% tip lmfao).

My (16) brother (M23) is an incredibly selfless person from a age he was the one protecting us from our drug and alcohol addicted parents on good days they'd just leave us alone which meant that my brother would be forced to take care of me and my eight siblings but on the bad days they'd find any reason to be mad and beat us, my brother would stand in front of the door way nake sure they would beat him instead of us. They'd use irons, bats anything to make us feel pain but my brother protecting us he would get the worse of it all, he still has a lot fo scars from it all but he has some tattoos that cover them up.
He never got any chance to have a childhood. And even now life hasn't gotten any easier, this last year has been crazy. He lost his best friend of ten years to a drug overdose, and only a month later we lost my little brothers both (M13), my cousin (F16) and my younger sister (F10) car accident a
All three of them ended up in a coma but eventually passed away one by one during this time my brother wouldn't leave their side, he never slept, didn't sleep or drink water. He'd only drink coffee and enegery drinks to stay awake.
And finally we lost our grandmother. She and my brother were always super close, and she passed away. After her passing things quickly went downhill from there. He couldn't sleep, he would've eat and I'm pretty sure he didn't take his meds that are meant to help him with his bipolar.
One day I came home from school and I found out that my brother tried to kill himself so he was sent to the psych ward.
We got to visit him while he was there but he wasn't like himself, he isn't really happy go lucky he can sometimes be like Wednesday Addams but he just looked so drained and dead inside. The nurse said that he had signs of burnout, a mental breakdown and psychosis.
He's been home for about a week now and there is no difference in his behaviour. He is still cold, distant and sometimes I catch him starring off into the distance. I can tell he feels very vulnerable position but he won't let any one of take care of him.
I'm gonna get to the point now today I came home from soccer practice to my uncle and aunt trying to get me to talk to my brother because they got into a fight. I don't wanna get into to much detail but it started over coffee and developed into them blaming him for the car accident.
When I went upstairs he was in a ball crying telling me he's sorry and that I shouldn't have to see him like this. When I bent down to try and comfort he moved from me quickly begging for me not to touch him saying that he doesn't want to hurt anyone and that he is tried of hurting people. I told that it was okay but before I could say more to comfort him he just screamed to leave him alone.
I'm not sure what to do from here. I called my godmother and she left about thirty minutes ago. She managed to calm him down with some herbs.
Do you guys have any advice or tips on how I can help him? Please please help me. Thank you

A little about me... Carpentehome renos until I got tired of the labor, paid for my CDL and now sling beverage cases. I'm looking at a fuel driving job.
Say I drive 5-10 years. Fuel driving is important... I've lived with classic tradesmen problems most my life really.
I'm in my 30s and my health is giving me anxiety (neck, hip, back).
Driving can be a fine career but I feel like it will be a transition. So I want to slowly start studying for something but I always have trouble for what I want.

• no staring at computer screens
• no mechanic work (done with hot and dirty)

So most programing, diesel tech, industrial tech etc etc.
I remember reading about mechatronics and I thought that was interesting. I'm throwing up this random post to gather your ideas. If I can be working with circuit boards, calibrations, maintenance, work with schematics etc. I'm handy.
I think I'm too old for an engineering degree. Willing to travel too. But my computer game I'm realizing is really weak regardless I'm going to be looking through things in my spare time maybe learn a computer language.
Thank you. Feel free to suggest anything. Title says still work with your hands. It's something I enjoy.

(Please be mindful as this is my first post on this subreddit and on Reddit in general, all I do on this app is browse. Also I am rewriting and reposting this as I had accidentally posted my first draft without finishing what I was trying to say!!)
This is pretty long so I’ll put a TL:DR here
I was struggling with pain for a month and am currently overweight, saw Embarrassed-Tip-4749 post a few days ago on how they got results in 11 days and I was desperate, and now after 2 days of trying their method, I am now pain free and lost a little bit of weight!!
A couple days ago, this redditor (Embarrassed-Tip-4749) had posted on here saying how they had gotten results almost immediately after changing up their mindset, the way they listened to subliminals and the subliminals used.
I’ve been listening to subliminals for damn near a decade with minimal to no results, and I want to chalk that up to bad mindset, inconsistent listening, changing my playlist every other week, and just not having enough information with how I should be navigating this.
I’m here now because I followed a majority of what Embarrassed-Tip-4749 had explained and what had gotten them results so quickly.
So to explain my situation now, I’m was in pain, overweight (211 lbs), and damn near pre-diabetic (Thanks to my dads side of the family) ALONG WITH staying and living with mentally and emotionally abusive parents who still treat me like a child and a slave (I’m over 20). I’m taking loans and going to community college and have no job (I’m applying everywhere but none are reaching out to me, including fast food restaurants).
At the moment, I’m eyeing for the military (Air Force) but my dog had chewed up my passport when my mom had carelessly left it out so I’m in a bit of a huge pickle right now trying to renew it.
I’ve tried the military back in 2022 (Navy) but was separated due to injuries and was told to try again after 6 months. I’m healed now, but there is a problem with my hip.
For the past month I’ve had nothing but horrible pain on my right hip, to the point where it was difficult getting off of bed, standing up from a chair, and even just walking. And with wanting to go back to the military, I knew they would find something that’ll disqualify me and have me stay with my parents.
I tried my approach with subliminals again, ones for weight loss, good health and free of pain, and I was seeing results, but very slow and not too noticeable results that entire week.
The pain was still there, but I could walk a bit freely without feeling anything, but standing up from a chair or getting up from my bed was still a struggle.
I did lose weight, not a lot, but just 3 pounds that week.
I’ve tried meditating, but would always get distracted, I’ve tried SATS, but with how busy my day goes with school, taking care of my brothers, job applications and interviews and dealing with my parents, I sometimes forget to do it and just immediately fall asleep, I do my best with LOA every morning but I’ve been losing motivation because I haven’t been getting any results from that no matter how consistent I try to be.
I want to add that I’m in a much better mindset and emotional state than in my past because of how desperate I want to leave and live my own life away from my parents. I am happier, and now have something to look forward to. I try my best to not let my parents get to me because I know once I’m away, my life will be a whole lot better than what it is now.
And when I saw Embarrassed-Tip-4749’s post. I got desperate.
I followed through with everything but making my own subliminal and listening to their playlist (I had my own).
I felt like I was in a pretty good mindset, and with this routine of listening to all of those subliminals, the detachment along with focusing on them would help me.
And MY GOSH guys, IT TOOK 2 DAYS. 2 DAYS!!! I HAVE NO MORE PAIN IN MY HIP. I FEEL A LOT MORE ENERGIZED. AND IVE LOST 3 POUNDS.
I’m honestly crying right now, the feeling of being able to sit and lay down and get up without suffering is such a miracle to me right now.
For a month I’ve felt nothing but pain, pain I thought would never go away, pain I thought would pause my life, pain that felt like it’s been with me for YEARS.
And now it’s just GONE!!
When I tell you how GRATEFUL I am for Embarrassed-Tip-4749 because they had literally changed my life with their method. And I see a lot more hope with changing my life than before!!
I’m now going to add more in my playlist for attracting money and getting accepted to a job so that I’m able to pay for a new passport, preparing supplies for bootcamp (I’m going to a recruiters once I reach my weight in the 100’s), and paying for a new phone and phone bill.
I’m starting to get my documents in order because I just want to be prepared. My parents have made me financially dependent on them and I want to stop that.
All this just feels so surreal and it feels like I’m taking my next step for a new chapter in my life.
Thank you all for reading this far, and knowing my story. I hope I bring just as much motivation for you as what Embarrassed-Tip-4749 did for me.
And if anyone has any recommendations for attracting money subliminals please let me know!!

I don't know how to use reddit or what community to look for, I don't know if I'm doing this right so apologies in advance.
I will try and put in as much detail as possible, I've never posted on reddit so idk if I'm doing this right.
During GCSE’S I failed maths, so I had no choice but to study health and social care level 3 extended diploma, I did not want to do it at all nevertheless, I did it and got very high grades (Distinction*, Distinction, Distinction).
Health and social care allowed me to progress to university and get me a career in healthcare (duh) like, midwifery, nursing, paramedics, physiotherapy, speech and language therapy etc. I decided to study speech and language therapy at uni because the other options did not interest me,I did not want to work at a hospital, do overnight shifts, I’ve heard so many negatives about those jobs and the pay is not enough, so I thought I was choosing the best option however, after a year I dropped out because I simply hated it.
Since I dropped out in 2021 my best bet was to get a job/experience so I applied to countless jobs, jobs I am clearly qualified for, but I’ve never managed to get a job. All my work experience is voluntary (working in schools and a care home), I’ve called up places, posted my cv on indeed, got it reviewed etc. I’ve handed in my CV in person at a boba shop and I saw the manager threw it on the side without reading it. I am still applying to jobs until this day but all I ever get is rejections or no response at all. I have never gotten an interview for any job.
I’m in this position, embarrassed and behind my peers, (i've heard comparison is the thief of joy but i cant help it) just like that 2 years have passed and I have achieved nothing. I haven’t progressed. I haven’t done anything, I have no money, no experience, nothing. I am clearly not doing anything with my time. I haven't found my "passion" (God, i hate that word), haven't found my motivation and I don't know HOW to either. I thought since i like skincare maybe i could do something like an aesthetician or dermatologist but i hate needles and im not smart like that. However, I managed to find a charity job to volunteer for however, I haven’t started yet (I will very soon). Apart from this, I don’t know what to do, I want to go to university but nothing interests me, or at least my interests don’t have very good success rate or a high salary, especially in the U.K. I don’t know why nothing interests me. Maybe the purpose of life isnt to get a job or get a degree but i dont know what else to do and to be quite frank, i need money, i cant get experiences or travel or buy food or a bus ticket without money. I want a high salary and I want to be financially independent and enjoy the finer things in life I feel like it's taboo saying that but honestly that’s MY goal, that’s what will make me happy or secure at least. I want to be an educated person so at least I have education to fall back on but I don’t know what caree route to go down. People keep saying don't go to university because it's not as important as it was 10/20 years ago etc. However, I'm thinking of going to college and do an access course in law which is for a year, and then apply to law in university but im not sure? People keep saying go out and get experience but nobody is willing to give me opportunities paid or unpaid and I’m feeling so hopeless, especially because the job market is in shambles right now. I really want to do well in life, I really want to succeed, my parents are counting on me to do well and I want to make them and myself proud and make something of myself. I know people say your 20’s are confusing, people say to invest in stocks or crypto, post on social media and earn money but the success rates are low, I’m just not lucky. I don’t have a glimpse of hope, no ideas nothing. I pray and pray and pray and try to look for things but everything is so depressing and boring and it doesn’t help living in the u.k because quite literally everything is grey and dull. I don’t have any interesting crazy hobbies to fall back to. Please give me some guidance/ help/ recommendations. I dont know what I want, I don't know what makes me happy before anyone asks. Hopefully I did this right. Thanks for reading.

i use linux and when openin my world it crashes here is the important part of the exit code

A fatal error has been detected by the Java Runtime Environment:

SIGSEGV (0xb) at pc=0x00007f8a9d03ac22, pid=9254, tid=0x00007f8ab3fff6c0

JRE version: Java(TM) SE Runtime Environment (8.0_202-b08) (build 1.8.0_202-b08)

Java VM: Java HotSpot(TM) 64-Bit Server VM (25.202-b08 mixed mode linux-amd64 compressed oops)

Problematic frame:

C [libsdl2gdx64.so+0x3ac22]

Core dump written. Default location: /home/toptip/Documents/curseforge/minecraft/Instances/Enigmatica 2: Expert - E2E/core or core.9254

If you would like to submit a bug report, please visit:

http://bugreport.java.com/bugreport/crash.jsp

The crash happened outside the Java Virtual Machine in native code.

See problematic frame for where to report the bug.

I know the internet isn’t capable of knowing all of the nuances of my situation, but I’m having a difficult day and came here for any advice. My partner (49F) and I (40 trans male) have been together for 5 years. We both live with complex trauma, although I’ve been more activately engaged in therapeutic modalities and also got sober 5 years ago, trying to be healthier.
Through a series of on-going triggers between each other and inability to resolve them, she ended things with me 9 months ago. I had just moved in and had to move out and went back to my home state to be close to family. While it wasn’t a divorce, it’s the closest I’ve ever felt to one and all of my past trauma resurfaced (I was with a narcissist female for a decade).
In the last 9 months, I ended up seeking residential treatment for complex trauma and my mental health which led me to EMDR. I’ve been doing EMDR for the last 3 months. My ex has come back into my life full of regret and remorse, willing to have hard conversations, willing to be supportive with me while I’m dysregulated and struggling to let her back in. She’s far from perfect and so am I but she’s been my best friend for years and I want to try and repair the damage.
I’m wondering if others here have had similar ups and downs in a long-term relationship, such as separating because you couldn’t seem to navigate your triggers well. How you have found EMDR helped or didn’t help with reducing fear of trusting, helping you be more open to intimacy, helping you feel less of a constant buzz of anxiety/fear around others. I feel like I make 1 step forward in progress and then symptoms come back intensely.
I guess that’s it for now.

No its completely fake with the elements inspired by multiple ppl life

19 F

No need to explain why i chose

Father dead

For making them dependent on others

Evil maiju angle

My mom said when she was a studying+2 around late 2030s ,she left her home to go to Tansen for studying there were no clz near her house at that time Since she had no-one chineko in city and a single girl she stayed in mama house for 2 months, the maiju was evil ,she would give my mom lot of inderect insults, and wouldn't let her have good food or study in peace, however there was no slutshaming from her, my mom who thought she ll never live alone in that age searched for room by herself, luckily she found same gau ko chineko manxeharu who gave her room to stay, she said she is proud of her for taking the right decision.

Working on cafe

To show got that spirit and she is strong and want to progress despite being in miserable life, I chose cafe also because cafe bahek aru late night samma k chalxa malai thaha xaina

1 am incident and slut shamed

I have seen girls being bashed for being home for 1 hrs, and i was sure it will be fucking believable, The slut shaming Infront of multiple ppl to a hardworking vulnerable girl by her evil providers ,seems a very emotional scene haha

Mom pani risako

Otherwise bhagna lai enough reason hunthena

Offer from bully and accepting it

Since she had gone through that, she was willing to do whatever to not live in that shit, i just wanted to show how vulnerable conditions make person to be manipulated by others

India

Fuck india, i ve seen a lot of documentaries about girls getting sold. They live very miserable life there 😔. And india was chosen other than saudi/quataMalaysia because i dont know any procedure for moving to them countries, india has open border no passport system as i know so i thought india would be perfect

Asking place to stay

To make you realise that it might be bait or fake to lure other girls and dissaponting desperate lonely man from their imagination ( Im pretty sure some of you fuckers wanted to fuck while providing her while some wanted to save and marry her) Poor bastards haha
Initially i was thinking about writing mass killing threat in bhatbhateni in daylight but i couldn't make it very realistic and terrifying,it just sounded like someone just watched Zero Day, Elephant, Documenting evil etc and wrote it in josh ma haha, Further more maile guns kaha bata lyauxu bhanne haha underworld ko barema ni kei thaha xaina so you it won't be realistic and believable So i wrote this instead
and there will be peace in this sub for a while because ive already enjoyed by 4/24 days vacation using reddit 24 hrs and now i will be focusing on other stuffs , it doesn't mean i regret though i have enjoyed my time in reddit aba feri free huda ill be back to piss you off , ani sadhai yesto post gare maja aaunna kahile kahi gare matra haha, bye
Ani if anyone in rupandehi or chitwan interested in friendly fist fight my dm are open, Im 20yo, 72kg, 6ft

Hi! so i’m a 16 year old female who’s starting pre nursing school in the fall at a tech school. nursing always stuck out to me and nothing else my whole life im planning on being a nicu nurse!! and also im getting older so im thinking about my future (way future lol) and i thought about kids. I have severe emetophobia and health anxiety to the point where it’s been consuming my life for the last 2 months :(. and i know going into the nursing path i’m gonna have to deal with v* or just sick people in general. i have to work at a nursing home my senior year to be able to get my nurses aid license. and also i have nieces and nephews and i know kids are always sick and of course morning sickness when your pregnant . i wanna know how you deal with it. i just thought about not having kids at all and throwing away nursing but i want both so bad in my future and i don’t wanna throw it away because of anxiety and fears. any tips from moms and nurses??

Hi all,
Long ways away for me but looking into Aus visas well in advance.
My profession is on STSOL, health group 411, anszco 411611 (massage therapist) but in my country (Canada) my profession is a contract, commission position (no salary/hourly) and I won't be applying until I have 3 years experience, entered my 3rd year April this year. Here I'm considered a sole proprietor which seems to be the same as a sole trader in AUS. My profession appears to operate as sole trader (commission, non-salary) in AUS as well.
I haven't found anything regarding proof of employment on the immi site but wondering how I would prove the three years of experience so I can prepare in advance. I do have proof of contracts dating back to October 2022, worked under no contract from April to October but have the invoices. I also have proof of a business license and licensing body membership starting April 2022.
All of the employment document info I'm seeing is from immigration lawyer websites so it varies, and some may be out of date.
TIA

My boyfriend of six months does not like how hairy I am down at my lady parts. I was confused at what he was saying at first because niether of my ex boyfriends even commented on my hair. But to appease my current boyfriend, I started shaving. This didn’t fix the problem because he asked me if that was the best I could do. I did some research and went to get a bakining wax yesterday . He was really happy and proud of me when I got home, but it didn’t last long. He wanted to be intimate with me right then and there, and though I wanted to as well, I didn’t think it was safe. The waxer said there were a few activities I had to avoid: sunbathing, swimming and, unfortunately, being intimate. When I explained this to him, he got really mad. I said it was for health reasons, and he responded that he had needs in this relationship too. We left it at that. Today, I am extremely itchy in my nether regions and am not in the mood at all. My boyfriend called me and asked if we could do it today. I knew he’d get angry again, but I just couldn’t do it because of my discomfort, I felt so bad letting him down again. He said to me “Maybe you wouldn’t be so itchy if we did it yesterday.” I explained to him again the health risks but he ignored me and said he knew better. I told him I thought I needed to go to UC or something for consultation. He said I’m just being a baby and I’ll get over it tomorrow and then the real fun will start to happen. One of my roommate’s who also waxes for her boyfriend thinks I should go to UR and she’s willing to drive me. My other roommate has also waxed before and says it will be fine tomorrow and agrees with my boyfriend “Yeah, you’re being a baby.” I’m not sure what I should do. My lady parts are very red and itchy……

I had a health emergency, and I basically couldn’t do any work winter or spring quarter. I have incompletes in my classes, but the school has done jack shit in helping me make up work despite documented medical treatment. I have a case manager, I have been in communication with my professors, and tbh I’m not sure what else to do.
I swear I’m not dumb, I work hella hard, but this is all so demoralizing. Working on deciding what I’ll retroactively drop, what I’ll try to make up, and what classes I’ll retake.

Hello, I am not as well versed in guinea pig behavior and bonding as I am for rabbits, so I wanted to ask some advice from you piggie experts!
I work at an animal shelter and we have an adult male guinea pig named Clark. Clark came from an abandoned home with 15 other guinea pigs, he was housed with 4-5 eight week old babies in a box upon arrival to the shelter from animal control, however he was separated once the babies went up for adoption. Clark once cleared health-wise, he went up as well.
I have minimal experience bonding guinea pigs, however I have been successful in the past monitoring introductions with guinea pigs in-shelter and understand some of the basics, like good and bad reactions, positive and negative interactions, etc. Every time I tried to introduce Clark to another guinea pig, either to a baby, an adult he'd met before, an adult he'd never met before, he always shot out with aggressive signs, immediately chasing, nipping, obsessing. He wouldn't settle when housed side-by-side, would constantly try to nip if they approached the bars (even with space in between).
He eventually met one baby male that was onery enough that after 3 days of meetings, they were able to co-exist and lived together fine for about 10 days, unfortunately due to shelter protocol (out of my hands), the baby was adopted without Clark (the adopter had other guinea pigs at home, so little dude is in good hands!). Clark eventually was adopted himself, however he was returned today because he did not get along with the adopters own guinea pig (adult, male). They described dominance clashing, aggression, Clark broke skin on the other guinea pig even with slow bonding methods, they just were not getting along.
What can I do to set Clark up for adoption into his new home? Recommend he go as an only-pig? Or how do I recommend new adopters to introduce him to future guinea pig friends? He only got along with one baby male out of 4 tried, and zero adults out of 3, 4 counting the adopters own pig. I want Clark to be able to have a buddy, but he's certainly not made it easy on me! Thanks for any advice you can give me for this boy

Hi,
So, about a month or so ago, I started having strange symptoms. I would be eating foods that I normally have no issue with, and it would feel like my throat was closing up. Further, my appetite was a bit spotty. Not gone completely, but not great, either. A couple of weeks ago, everything got worse. I came back home late one night and had some greasy food. I woke up later that night almost choking on a tiny amount of incredibly sour vomit. My chest hurt quite badly, and I went back to bed. It seemed to go away. Later that week, I would wake up every day, really gassy. I’d have more bowel movements than usual. As the week progressed, I had the urge to poop a lot, but only green, loose stool would come out. Late that week, I woke up in the middle of the night in an absolute panic. I’m definitely prone to health anxiety, but this was extreme. I for some reason felt i was going to die. I went to the emergency room, and they said I seemed fine. The stomach issues persisted. Constant bloating, belching, and lots of gas. Also, whenever I would stand up from lying down, I would get a bad head rush. Anyway, I went to a GI doctor, and he gave me the urea breath test, which came back negative. I was so sure it was H pylori, and now I’m worried it’s something worse. I traveled earlier today, and was dry heaving due to nausea. I want to try to get an endoscopy done. Can the breath test be a false negative?

TL;DR:Grew up hearing stories about demons and possessions. Wondering if they’re true or just misunderstood mental health issues.
Selam everyone,
So, I’ve been thinking about this for a while and wanted to get some opinions. Back home, there are a lot of stories about demons, possessions, and all that supernatural stuff. Growing up, I always heard tales from family etc about people getting possessed or encountering evil spirits or demons . As a kid with a bright imagination it freaked me out to be honest.
When I was around 14-15 years old , I started to wonder if these stories were actually true or if they’re just a way for people to explain things they didn’t understand, like mental health issues or technology (e.g. Seytanu Bet[Wafa Cinema] in Tewdros Square). I mean, when someone is acting strangely or talking to themselves, could it just be that they need help from a psychiatrist rather than an exorcist etc? 😂
For example there’s a lady we know in our family circle who was supposedly involved in witchcraft . According to her accounts and others she wanted to leave it all behind and return to God & the church. But things got really crazy for her when she made that decision. She would be pestered by demons that would challenge her because she had stopped performing rituals for them. She even claimed these demons lifted her and threw her onto a roof one time ; what’s crazy is another person attested to this and also said she’d speak in different voices which were “demonic”. While she no longer experiences these phenomena any longer , seeing her now, I can still discern all the telltale symptoms of psychosis from schizophrenia, both then and now.
Almost everyone I know insists it’s true and tries to convince me , but I’ve never experienced anything like it myself, and I won’t believe it until I see definitive proof.
I’m really curious to hear what you all think. Have you experienced or heard similar stories? Do you think there’s some truth to the supernatural angle, or is it more likely that these are just cases of untreated mental health problems? Looking forward to your thoughts , do share!

I AM NOT OOP. OOP IS u/ThrowRA-sad_mom123
Originally posted on relationship_advice
Content warning: mentions of stalking, domestic violence, homicide
2 updates - mediumish
Original post - June 7th, 2024
Update 2 - June 9th, 2024
Update 3 - June 9th, 2024
My (47F) pregnant daughter (22F) is going to marry an incarcerated man (29M). How can I go about this situation?
I’m concerned for my child. Yes she’s an adult but I feel like she’s making the worst decision for herself. I don’t approve AT ALL.
My daughter had good things going on for herself. She graduated high school, went to college and graduated with her associates, got accepted into dental school and all of its going down the drain because she’s chosen to invest her time and energy into her “soulmate”.
About a year ago, my daughter started writing letters to prisoners as a pen pal to keep them company. At first I was uncomfortable with the idea for many, many reasons (it never crossed my mind that she’d fallen for a criminal) but I still rented a P.O. Box for her so she wouldn’t give out her address.
My daughter was in a healthy relationship with her now ex-fiancé. They’ve been together since her senior year in high school. They just had their first child over a year ago, expecting another, and they got engaged 6 months ago. A month ago, my daughter told me that she and her fiancé were taking a break and two weeks ago she called off the engagement and left him. He’s a complete wreck. He told me it hurts that his family that he created with my daughter is now broken. He feels so blindsided as do I because I believed my daughter was truly in love but she wasn’t, she wasn’t happy.
I’ve been very supportive of my daughter during this whole situation, that is until she told me she was already in a new relationship. I was taken aback. I obviously started questioning her about it and she confessed that she had fallen for one of the prisoners she’s written to, in fact, they’ve been together for 3 months. It makes me sick to my stomach even typing this out right now because I just can’t believe it. She said they’ve been in contact for almost 8 months and since then they’ve fallen more and more in love with each other. She’s visited him multiple times, in fact she’s even taken my grandson to see this man. She’s shown me pictures of them embracing and him holding my grandchild. I’ve done some research and looked up his charges and I’m livid she even brought my grandson, even herself around someone who could do such horrible things. I’m terrified for my daughter and grandson.
I’ve tried expressing my concerns to her but she’s in a whole other world. She told me the last in person visit they had he popped the question and she said yes, that’s when I snapped. I was and am very pissed about this whole situation and she’s hurt that I’m not supportive of her decisions. She defended their relationship and her choices and we started arguing. It got so bad that now she’s not speaking to me or allowing me to see my grandbaby and it breaks my heart. I love my child but I will never approve of this relationship.
I understand that as an adult, she has the right to make her own choices, and l've always been proud of her independence. But as someone who truly loves her deeply, it's hard for me to watch her make a decision that I feel could be harmful to herself and my grandson. I'm scared for her because of what I've learned about this person's past, and I can't shake the fear of what could happen. I don't want to lose her or my grandchild to a situation that seems so risky. I don’t know what else I can do and I feel so hopeless. Please, what else can I do?
TLDR: I'm worried because my daughter, who's achieved so much, is throwing it all away for a prisoner she fell for while being a pen pal. She's left her fiancé for him, and it's hard for me to stomach or support this decision.
Relevant Comments
terayonjf
I would personally give all the information you have on the new guy to the ex and implore him to get to family court immediately and fight for full and sole custody of the kids. You can't stop your adult child from ruining her life and putting herself in danger BUT you can assist in getting your minor grandchild away from this situation and away from her poor decision making. She may hate you for doing this but the safety of the child is more important than her clouded feelings right now and maybe the courts threatening to remove her child might be the wake up call to stop the foolishness
cassowary32
Is the former fiancé fighting for custody? How does your daughter plan to support her two kids? Hopefully the ex will be able to make sure the kids are safe and get CPS involved if they are not. I have a feeling that the exhaustion from single parenting a newborn will have your daughter coming to her senses soon.
How much longer is her partner in jail for?
Her ex fiancé still doesn’t know about her new relationship. When my daughter ended their relationship, he felt completely blindsided because he didn’t see it coming, no one did. If he knew she was in another relationship, especially with a criminal, it would be a living nightmare. I mean he has the right to know because she’s bringing his children to see this man.
For privacy reasons, i will not give out any names. He’s currently serving a life sentence (I’ll let you guess) but he could get out early due to parole. He has a history of domestic abuse and breaking protective orders.
In later replies, OOP reveals that daughter's new beau is in prison for stalking, violation of protective orders, and murder. Mostly that last one.
KaleidoscopeRude4370
A LIFE SENTENCE?!?!?!??!
You need to explain to your daughter now before you take legal action to gain sole custody with the father. She needs it spelt out on paper how this person is literally dropping an atomic bomb on her life while literally being locked up.

• I would ask her questions like:
• how can you marry someone you have never seen interact or function in LEGIT REAL SOCIETY?!!?
• why is she so quick to not look into his past
• how can you marry someone you have never seen interact with another person?
• how can you bring your children around someone who is in for life? OP I know you aren't sharing but did this dude kill someone?

This is the craziest post I have ever read. Please update us and I am sorry this is happening.
Updates 1 & 2 - 2 days later
I wanted to start off with thanking everyone that took time to give me some advice. After receiving a lot of comments with suggestions on how i should handle this situation i went ahead and told the father of my grandchildren about what’s been going on. He was my soon to be son in law and I’ve grown to love him as if he was my own. I believe he has every right to know about the wellbeing of his children so I confessed everything to him. Thankfully, I have a family therapist who is a very close friend of mine. She’s been here with us since the divorce between me and my ex husband.
I called her, we spoke about the situation and she agreed to guide me to tell the kids father. I called him over to my home and we all had a very long talk. I let him know everything and he broke down, crying hysterically. It was horrible. He felt so violated not only as a partner to her but as a father to their kids. I made it very clear that I would support him no matter the circumstances, at this point it’s not only about my daughter but my grandkids. We discussed the charges against my daughters new fiancé, and he was beyond livid. He actually suggested himself taking my daughter to court and I agreed with him that it would be the best thing to do. We came to an agreement that he wouldn’t tell my daughter what he knew that way I could get more information to help him plead his case. But yesterday, shit hit the fan.
Yesterday, I received some angry texts from my daughter and it didn’t end well. I posted the texts here : https://www.reddit.com/texts/s/9dNmfkfBab
Text are transcribed below, feel free to skip to where this post resumes.
D = Daughter; M = Mom (OOP)
D: Mom
D: Why aren't you answering me ??
D: Dude Answer your phone *eyeroll* *facepalm*
D: HELLOO????
M: I'm sorry I couldn't answer the phone, I was driving and my phone wasn't connected to the Bluetooth.
M: What's wrong babe, is everything ok?
D: Wht tf do you have me so much
D: Like what the fuck is wrong with you ?? Why are you going out your way to tell my business to [redacted] for ?
M: [redacted] babe I love you but please don't speak to me like this.
M: Can you please try telling me what's going calmly.
D: The fuck do I need to be calm for all you do is stress me out. I'm 7 months pregnant and high risk and you want me stressed for what ?????
M: [redacted] honey I don't want you to be stressed and I don't want to be the reason to cause it.
D: SO why the fuck are you telling [redacted] my business?
M: What do you mean?
D: He's been blowing up my phone all night long.
D: He called me again on his break this morning and said you brought him to see Dr [redacted] and told him that I've been cheating on him throughout our relationship.
D: You told him about [redacted] and that ive been letting him around [redacted]
D: Wtf is wrong with you?
M: [redacted] honey there's nothing wrong with me. I understand why you're upset but babe this man is a very dangerous criminal.
M: He's doing life for a reason. He murdered his ex. He abused her and she went to get an order of protection against him and he violated all of it.
M: I love you and [redacted] with all my heart and I can't imagine a life without you both.
D: OH MY GOD
D: YOURE SO FUCKING NARCISSISTIC *facepalm**facepalm*
M: [redacted], I'm asking you to please be respectful. I don't deserved to be spoken to like this.
D: [in reply to M: [redacted] honey there's nothing wrong with me. I understand why you're upset but babe this man is a very dangerous criminal.] Dangerous?? You don't even fucking know him
M: Did you skip over the message right after that. He was abusing a poor girl. She didn't feel safe and went to get a protective orders against him and he violated them and ended up murdering her. [redacted] open your eyes.
M: He's guilty and serving time.
D: He's not guilty of a damn thing. You clearly don't understand how any of this shit works.
D: He wasn't found guilty he took a plea deal
D: He still got life but he can still get out on parole
D: He did this to avoid getting life without parole.
D: You don't understand anu of this shit
M: He still killed someone. Why are we not addressing this? He's a murder
D: No he's not. He's a victim that needed to defend himself.
M: Defend himself? He was a grown ass man beating on a woman.
D: So men can't be victims of abuse?
D: The bitch would start fights, hit him and play victim in the end. It was a whole cycle
M: [redacted] can we not do this over text? Please answer your phone.
D: No I don't want to we can talk thru text or don't have to talk at all *grinning smily*
M: What is your issue?
D: My issue is you.
D: You're weird as fuck going behind your daughters back
D: I'm your kid. You should have my back
M: I do have your back, but I also care for the livelihood of my grandchildren. This situation is unhealthy and unsafe for children. You as an adult can whatever you please, but when children are being put in these toxic situations, action needs to be taken.
D: oh so you agree with [redacted] that I'm an unstable, unfit mother *crying-laughing**crying-laughing**crying-laughing*
D: You're such a narcissistic bitch
D: I can see why dad divorced you before he dies.. I wouldn't want to be buried next to you either
M: I've had enough of the disrespect [redacted] I've been nothing but calm and respectful and you've disrespected me over and over.
D: We've been past respect. You told my business to my baby daddy.
D: You disrespected me so I'm returning it *laughing-crying*
M: You've changed. You have become such a nasty individual and it's upsetting that as my only daughter you treat me this way after everything I've done for you.
D: yeah I have changed
D: I had a fucking baby
D: Went through postpartum by MYSELF
D: [redacted] would see me struggling and didn't do shit. I was working to provide for my family. I ahd no emotional support. I WAS BY MYSELF
D: just me and my son. When I found out I was having baby 2 i was by myself. Yeah [redacted] had a job and took care us but he wasn't there to help me
D: I WAS BY MYSELF.
D: I found a man who yes made some mistake in his past but he's making up for it. He finished school, is allowing god to lead him in life, and he's positive
D: He respects me and pushes me to be strong. He motivates me and he provides emotional support. I don't need a mans money because I make my own but I needed love and he provided that for me
D: I don't understand why you felt the need to go out of your way to disturb our peace but I'm happy and very much in love with him and I'm not leaving him.
M: Look at how you're acting [redacted]. You're spiraling. This man is no good.
D: Omg gtfo I'm tired of the back and forth *facepalm*
D: Like I told [redacted], good luck taking me to court *finger*
D: Until then, you won't be seeing me, [redacted], or the baby for the sake of our mental health.
D: You bring nothing but drama and negativity into our lives and we'd be much better off without you. Please don't contact me or your will be blocked
POST RESUMES HERE
I called the children’s father to ask him what the hell was he thinking and he explained that he wasn’t. He’s been apologizing nonstop but the damage has already been done. I’m at a loss for words. I’m devastated. I’m heartbroken. I’ve ofícially lost my daughter and grandkids and I don’t know what else to do. I can’t imagine not being a part of their lives and it hurts me deeply. What did I do wrong to deserve this? Is there any way I could fix this ?
Relevant Comments
trishsf
Time. Guarantee this guy has other women on the hook. Why not? He’s got nothing going for him and will never see the light of day again. Maybe it’s possible to hire a PI that can find out if there are others? At some point, she’s going to miss being touched. Dates. Hugs in the morning and at night. Just be there when she crashes because she will. That’s all that you can do. I’m so sorry.
TrifleMeNot
Keep supporting the father. He will get them eventually and you can still be Grandma. Your daughter was lost before you even posted. She may come back but keep in with the Dad. Good luck OP.
He feels really guilty for my daughters reaction but I believe it was only a matter of time before she was going to crash out. At this moment in time, I’m worried for my grandson. It makes me question if my daughter can get so angry with me with something like this, how angry can she get at my grandbaby 💔
SnooWords4839
Your grandchild's dad can still get custody.
Daughter is making horrible choices.
After rereading her messages, I think it’s possible my daughter was suffering from postpartum depression and by getting pregnant again so soon her body didn’t get enough time to heal. Her hormones are all over the place and her mental is declining.
She wasn’t like this a year ago, she was a happy, respectful, caring soul but all of that’s changed. and I feel horrible. I wish I could’ve seen her behavior myself. I could’ve gotten her the help she needed right then and there 😞
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I did night shifts in my early 20s. I was a bitter person then, my mental health was bad back then. But it was manageable. The same shit different day mentally. Hanging out with my two best mates at night, smoking and playing video games. General doomer vibes.
As I shifted careers in security with days shift. I managed to get into fitness, body building specifically. And I made tremendous progress. I lost so much weight and put on some muscle at the same.
Now I’ve shifted careers again. (Made redundant) and now I work in a kitchen. Which I actually enjoy.
But my manager, has put my on closes only.
At first it was okay. I’d go gym after work. Midnight. 45 min work out. It wasn’t ideal. But the best I could do. Then I started leaving the kitchen later and wouldn’t have time to go gym, otherwise I’d miss my last train home. But it was still manageable, I’d miss a work out one day and work out the next.
Then it just kept getting worse. Leaving at 1:30-2:30am and having to get the night bus home. Getting back home at 4am. Not sleeping till 7 or 8 am. Sometimes not even sleeping at all.
Now I have to work out before I start my shift.
And i hate it. I barely have any calories to fuel me through my work out. I wake up mid morning. Have a breakfast which I can’t enjoy or take my time eating and then rush to the gym and blast through my work out while my food hasn’t fully digest, despite the food not being enough anyway.
Aaah.
I’m so bitter every time I’m on the night bus. Seeing people going home on their night out, or seeing other people finishing their night shift jobs too.
It’s just, not ideal for me RIGHT NOW.
It’s affecting my mental health and my fitness goals.
And now I’m bitter.
Although not as bitter as I used to be.
Still, it’s not a good mindset to be back in.

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