I don't know if this is normal I'm 25 M I work at a Co-ed Vocational Boarding School I just started here 3 months ago.
I would say I'm fairly attractive, I've been called eye candy.
The students are ages 16-24
Being the first time I'm working in an environment with other people. Specially students, while not being a student is unique.
Especially from the male perspective. Girls have indirectly offered me blowjobs multiple times!
I think sometimes they are horny, and just curious, or interested in a good time
I think it's normal. Especially for the younger ones, they can't control themselves as much.
One girl for instance has been flashing me in a way. Not sure if it's by purpose or unknowingly.
Once it was very hot out on campus. I was walking by and her walking the opposite direction. She looked at me, and lifted her shirt over her chest, and started to fan herself, as she walked past me... underneath was a thin sports bar.
I don't know if it was intentional, but I was busy, attending to a fight that occurred ahead of me.
Then most recently I was at the cafeteria she was standing in front of me and sort of lifted her shirt to me a little over her belly button, giving me eye contact...
I immediately looked away.
And later a female student with her boyfriend kept having eyes for me, even to the point of biting her self looking at me.
It was awkward for me, especially because her boyfriend was there.
(Sex is not allowed on campus)
I think that's what has many of the women to this point.
Obviously, i can't talk to any staff about this. They will possibly see me as an obstacle or threat to female students

So I am one of the most openly and well known queer people in my community which I'm fine with. But there is this guy who used to go to my school that was homophobic. At the end of freshman year we were kind of friends and also he had addressed that he isn't homophobic anymore because of me but can be annoyed by flamboyant personalities. He emancipated a year ago and recently I sent money for his rent and helped him out of a situation. We hung out after and made out... We talked for a while and he talked about how he doesn't know who he is because if how his father treated him. I like him and he really likes me but he still has internalized tendencies. This Saturday we hung out again and cuddled for a bit and I told him that we need to stop. I still like him but he randomly jerks away from my touch, slips and uses slurs, and is bothered by my open queerness. I know it isn't intentional and it's because of his family but I couldn't keep doing that.

Hi everyone, so I went no contact with 2 of my friends who I think have been quite selfish over the years. I sent letters recently to officially end the friendships.
I didn't really go too personal with what my gripes were to them. I'm still figuring everything out that I'm mad at. As for the friend that has emailed me, I felt I was under his thumb, he was more overtly abusive when we were younger, mean pranks, making fun of me in front of people, taking photos of me while I was naked (changing, showering etc), stealing from me plus more. Recently it's been more covert narcissist type stuff, it's hard for me to even say what it is, I just don't feel good when I'm around. It doesn't help that we gambled together and got addicted, I'm in Gambler's Anonymous now and starting to get better, I'm not supposed to associate with other gamblers anyway.
Here is the email titled "letter received", I've redacted personal info. I just want to know what, if any, red flags you notice. I'll explain more in the comments if needed. The people he talks about losing aren't dead, they are an ex friend and ex fiance that chose to end the relationships as well. Here it is:
Hi James
I received your letter this morning and honestly, I feel very sick and upset about it and I do deserve a chance to respond. As I’m sure you understand I have questions.
Firstly, a response to how you think I’ve gone about things in the wrong way… the password resets were not a way of getting in touch I was genuinely surprised I couldn’t get in to Disney and thought I was putting it in wrong, it was only on the second time I realised what you had done. But of course you never communicated that to me. I was not ‘involving’ your family. You have to remember that we’re all sitting here for a very long time with no answers wondering how our friend is getting on and keen to see him, but being blocked with no explanation forces me to reach out to your mum and ask how you’re doing, I think about you all the time. So then after your mum said what she said I was thinking ‘ahh he’s really down, what can I do without seeing him?’ So I just sent some money and was saying ‘get a takeaway on me’. It was just a kind gesture from a friend to try and boost morale, because obviously I’m thinking what your mum is saying is true. So I don’t think the way you have gone about things during this time has also been that great, it’s been very confusing and unfair.
Now, I don’t think just saying you don’t want to be friends with me anymore and that you think our relationship is toxic, and then not going on to say any of the reasons why, is so unfair. And that’s what’s made me feel quite uneasy tbh, what a huge blow to the gut. Toxic means very harmful or unpleasant, and so that’s what our friendship is to you? I’ve seen you have these types of friendships and never thought in a million years i would be on the receiving end of it. So, yes I would like a much better explanation than the one in your letter, I thought we had much more mutual respect and understanding. So what have I done? And what have I done so suddenly on wrestlemania week that triggered all of this? Because in my opinion, I think our relationship is very much on the opposite side of toxic, I find that all we do is laugh pretty much and that hanging out with you definitely takes the edge off a stressful or bad day and it’s something I look forward to. And I also think I keep you away somewhat from real toxic shit like drugs, and get you doing the things that you’re really good at. I do what I can to help always, you’re my best and oldest friend. And yes, you feeling like this a while without saying anything and feeling obligated to keep the friendship going definitely makes me feel sick. There was no need to be fake when you can just speak up. I’m definitely sorry that I’ve made you feel any of this. You can come to me about anything, like always, and the same from me to you.
My main concern will always be us, that we’re happy and healthy and having a good time.
We’ve been together our entire lives and have such a catalog of memories, saying goodbye to all this is really the biggest shame and would make me very sad. And therefore, I’m really hoping that you can reconsider? I mean, absolutely have whatever space you need but I do urge you to reconsider on throwing away 30 years of everything. From the bottom of my heart I do apologise for ANY wrongdoing that I have done in the last couple of years and just know nothing has been with intent or malice. I just don’t want to throw this away when it’s salvageable. When a relationship breaks down or has issues, you open up and talk about them, you iron them out and you move past it. And clearly that hasn’t happened here before chucking it away. So please reconsider and open up to me, I would of course make whatever changes I can in the friendship to save it. We can change what we do, where we go, how we act, how often etc. I honestly don’t mind, I’m just unaware what the issues are at the moment, but I would very much like to move forward and past this. While you do have a right to be left alone, I also have a right to fight for what I believe in and what I don’t want to lose and that’s what I intend to do, albeit in the right ways.
Obviously I have had a very tough year in losing a friend in (name) and losing (name) and I really don’t need to lose my best friend too. So please if there’s anything I can do, I need you. I love you man.
Take care (name)

Since many Hogwarts teachers have been performing different forms of mistreatment in the books, however with or without malicious intentions (more like due to the Wizard culture and standard sometimes, while Snape and Umbridge are likely the malicious ones). Imagine if some Hogwarts students are unable to bear the stress and sufferings anymore, and turns to the devastating path of suicide. How will those teachers feel and react.

1. Imagine how will Snape and Minerva will feel if Neville kills himself during the 3rd grade because of Snape's constant bullying and Minerva's harsh punishment (I never think Minerva is particularly vicious except she has a bad mouth for once like GoF, not entirely harmful. A teacher called me immature once before the class for applying balm in the morning assembly, but we still get along and that only happened once. Minerva's punishments are more likely affected by the Wizarding culture and standards. I understand that she should never punish Neville by locking him out of the common room, but everyone seems to forget that there are two trolls guarding the common right after Sirius sneaks into the room, not mentioning that Neville could only enter the room with other students, which means Neville's life will never be in risk because of her punishment)
   
2. How will Snape react if he learns about Harry attempting to kill himself after all those stress he suffers, or maybe if he realizes he is involved in Harry's suicide note (There is actually a good fic about that too which is narrated by Minerva's pov)
   
3. Student's (attempted) suicide rate gone high once Umbridge goes too far. More students are more enraged because of grief and become more determined to rebel Umbridge with any means necessary for their friends who suffer from her. Parents become suspicious over the school's inner events. If MoM still ignore what happen in Hogwarts and decide to cover up these suicide news and let Umbridge keep her post, I suppose teachers, students and parents are going to take a more extreme/arbitrary approach to deal with their dilemma.
   

Demographics

• Gender: Female
• Race/Ethnicity: Asian(Chinese)
• Residence: China but studies in Singapore(International)
• Income Bracket: ~$110k/yr
• Type of School: Private boarding
• Hooks (Recruited Athlete, URM, First-Gen, Geographic, Legacy, etc.): First-Gen

Intended Major(s): Business/Finance/Econ
Academics

• GPA (UW/W): My school doesn't calculate GPA. All based on IB, 7 is full. 6 courses in total and 3 extra for Theory of Knowledge, Extended Essay and Creativity Activity and Service.
• Rank (or percentile): N/A
• of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc.: IB triple language course selection
• Senior Year Course Load: IB Chinese A Language&Literature Standard Level, IB English B Higher Level, IB French B SL, IB Economics HL, IB Computer Science SL, IB Maths Application and Interpretation HL

Standardized Testing
List the highest scores earned and all scores that were reported.

• SAT: 1480(700RW+780M) for ED1 and EA; 1520(730RW+790M) superscore for ED2
• AP/IB: IB predicted 35/42 or 37/45
• Other (ex. IELTS, TOEFL, etc.): TOEFL 103 ED1 and EA submitted only. ED2 Waived

Extracurriculars/Activities
List all extracurricular involvements, including leadership roles, time commitments, major achievements, etc.
Copy pasted from Common App

• Leader, Economics & Finance Society——Organized weekly meetings to discuss economic and financial news; invited guest speakers, developed agendas and crafted presentations.
• Member, Southeast Asia Exchange(Six-week program)——School Worked with peers from other Asian countries on regional issues like education and health care; Found appropriate solutions with help from experts.
• Head of Student Admissions Facilitator——Supported school admissions team recruiting new students; Organized alumni interviews with prospective students and made detailed notes.
• Leader, Child at Street 11——Taught kids from low-income families; Planned and executed activities for a small class, including reading, art, maths, and games.
• Member, Girls In Tech——Brainstormed and solved coding challenges in a team setting; invited women in the STEM industry to give talks about their careers.
• Member, Swimming Club——Learned different types of swimming: breaststroke, freestyle.
• Traditional Chinese dance——Hobby, performed in the local community.
• Member, Author, School magazine——Wrote 4 articles per week during the summer for school magazine on international news and school memories.
• Member, Alumni Association——Helped organize events such as alumni reunion and alumni talks; Networking with alumni to discuss their strength and shared it with current students.
• Member—— Read English books to kindergarten children in our school; Practiced monologue speech; Ensured class participation.

Awards/Honors
List all awards and honors submitted on your application.

1. International Certificate of Education with Distinction
2. Common European Framework of Reference for Languages(CEFR) Diploma of Studies in French Language B1
3. National Economics Challenge China 2022 National Top Scoring Individual Bronze Award

Letters of Recommendation
(Briefly describe relationships with your recommenders and estimated rating.)
Maths Teacher- 7/10 Counselor - 8/10 English Teacher - 8/10
Interviews Not even a single one.
Essays
(Briefly reflect on the quality of your writing, time spent, and topic of main personal statement.)
Common App Essay: family background with no English speaking people, childhood of first-gen student, experienced gender prejudice in the community(with examples), process of overcoming above challenges
Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)
Acceptances:

• Brandeis University (ED2)——5-year undergrad and master program (direct into master if high GPA guaranteed until junior year) COMMITED
• Northeastern University (EA)——NUin program, first semester at partner schools in Europe, remaining at Boston campus

Waitlists: None
Rejections: Tufts (ED1)
Withdrawals: Boston University, Babson College, George Washington University, Rutgers University
Additional Information:
You don't need to be perfect to get into your dream school. Think of what you want to get out of university and what the school wants. Does it match? If no, don't try to fit in. Be yourself, show yourself. Be confident. Yall gonna have a satisfying career even without university. I was astonished when I received the 5-year undergrad and master offer when not even a single person in my family speaks English or has attended a proper high school fully.

The original story of the death of RFK is shrouded with cover-up, lies, and corruption. This is a collection of evidence I’ve gathered that proves beyond a reasonable doubt a conspiracy to kill Robert F. Kennedy.
The bullet that killed RFK was fired from his right backside at an upward angle, and no witness in the vicinity said Sirhan was closer than 3-4 feet, with most saying around 6 feet. The way Kennedy was standing, facing Sirhan, makes it impossible for Sirhan to have shot him in that manner. witnesses stated the gunfire sounded like a machine gun, and said they had a hard time believing it was from one gun. The medical evidence, meticulously documented by Dr. Thomas Noguchi, the coroner who conducted the autopsy, showed that the fatal shots came from behind and 1 inch away, this automatically shows that Sirhan couldn’t have shot Robert Kennedy, but this is only the first thing. Dr. Noguchi, wrote a book on it calling it the perfect autopsy because it was. He was supervised by lots of different professional experts in autopsies. He saw what happened to JFK's body by the government and media, They didn't allow him to testify in the trial and then they ran a smear campaign against him for saying the bullets came from back right and upwards. He was then fired from his job.
Sirhan fired two bullets, one hitting a man and another hitting a frame behind RFK. He was then abruptly subdued and fired six more shots, which are all accounted for, hitting five different people, with two shots lodging in the ceiling panel and one in the frame. That gives us eight shots not accounting for the four that hit RFK. How is this possible with an eight-shot revolver? It's not. Audio recordings of the shooting have been examined by multiple experts, who concluded that 10-12 shots were fired.
The LAPD tampered with evidence; they removed the frame that clearly had a bullet, as well as the ceiling panels that were hit. This is supported by witness testimony and photographic evidence. The LAPD later stated that the evidence was taking up too much space—a flimsy excuse to blatantly cover up and hide the facts. Former FBI agent William Bailey supported the evidence of bullet holes in the doorways, remembering two bullets in the doorframe and FBI photos proving this. In addition, 20 FBI officers reported seeing bullet fragments or bullet holes in the doorframe.
Sirhan was not given a fair trial. His mother recalls Sirhan asking the judge for a new lawyer and being told to sit down or he would be tied down. His lawyer decided to fight on the basis that Sirhan was mentally ill and in a hypnotic trance, and did not even try to dispute the evidence. For example, the gun that was allegedly used in the shooting was examined by a ballistics expert who stated it was the same gun that killed RFK, even though the serial numbers of the gun he tested and Sirhan's gun didn't match up. Not only did this prove the expert was willing to lie, also destroys the credibility of the LAPD investigation. There was also no chain of custody, which in a real trial would be inadmissible.
They bullied and intimidated a witness Sandra Serrano who claimed a woman in a polka dot dress and a man ran out on the stairs saying, "We killed him, we killed him." They bullied her on tape, making her change her story. Many other people recall seeing and talking to this polka-dot dress girl. Also, a police officer named Paul Shrager got told by a witness that the Polka-dot lady ran past with a man them saying we killed him, Paul later saw in a news report they changed what he said to They killed him. The LAPD claimed they found the polka-dot lady, but it was another person in a green dress, blonde, with crutches, who looked nothing like the person described by witnesses. David Morales, who pressured Sandra Serrano into changing her story about the polka dot lady, was known to have administered tests in South America, Vietnam, and other countries, suggesting ties to the CIA. Morales, drunk, bragged to friends, "I was in Dallas when we got that motherfucker, and I was in Los Angeles when we got the little bastard." He had a history of involvement in CIA operations on foreign soil, including a test on Venezuelan dictator Pérez Jiménez during a government transition.
Scott Enyart was taking pictures in the pantry where Kennedy was killed. He says he loaded and clicked off his third roll of film. He claims that later, during the night of the shooting, police officers chased him down and confiscated his camera and film. He later tried to get this back 6 months later but the police denied ever knowing about it until he contacted his lawyer, who got him 26 out of 36 film. In the missing film was pictures during the shooting more interesting Scott was right behind Thane Eugene Caesar, showing these pictures would show there was no conspiracy, but no the LAPD destroyed them . This was a very weird thing to do. Later, Scott sued, and a Los Angeles jury awarded Enyart $465,000 in his claim against the city. The jury believed that Enyart was in the pantry when Kennedy was shot and that he took three rolls of film. The city was found to be negligent in returning the photographs that the police had confiscated. The photographs have never been found. This is not the only two incidences in the LAPD destroyed 2,400 pieces of evidence as well as Scott Enyart photos 3 weeks before Sirhan's trial.
In addition, Sirhan used to hypnotize himself Sirhan received letters and payments from the Ancient Mystical Order of the Rose Cross. He was known to be the easiest type of person to hypnotize. He be hypnotized to climb the bars of his cell During the trial, psychiatrist Bernard Diamond hypnotized Sirhan, told him he was a monkey, and Sirhan started swinging from the bars of his jail cell and acting like a monkey. Bernard Diamond was a very shady UCLA professor who many believe was one of the main MKULTRA hypnotizers used by the govt. Under hypnosis, he wrote the same things found in his notepad at home: "RFK must die, die." suggesting he wrote in a trance these writings are eerily similar to what he wrote while under hypnosis. William Bryan, a CIA MKULTRA primary researcher and an expert in hypnotism, claimed you could brainwash a person to do almost anything. He allegedly bragged about programming Sirhan and deprogramming Albert DeSalvo, "the Boston Strangler." Sirhan's diary also mentions mind control, aswell as Sirhan writing, "God help me, please help me, Salvo di DeSalvo." Could this be a link between a known CIA hypnotist and Sirhan.
Sirhan was led to a dark place by a woman after drinking coffee with her. He last remembers feeling drowsy and disoriented. He found himself lying on a table, and then he felt someone choking him. This strange and disjointed memory suggests that Sirhan may have been drugged or kidnapped before the Assassination.
Sirhan, easily manipulated through hypnotic techniques and possibly drugged, might have been an easy target for such a conspiracy. His behavior after the arrest was strange, as if he were in a trance. He was described by witnesses as having an empty look, almost as if he were devoid of emotion or awareness of his surroundings. This is consistent with reports of individuals under deep hypnosis.
So after all this, you may ask who did it? It was Eugene Thane Caesar and the polka-dot dress girl. This is the evidence: Thane Caesar was a last-minute replacement as Kennedy’s body guard couldn't show up that day. the kitchen was constantly unguarded, and a Kennedy staffer said she had to keep getting people out of the kitchen, the person to guard the kitchen door was Thane Eugene Caesar, this is where Sirhan would’ve come from and was seen standing there before the shooting. Eugene was standing in the exact position someone would have had to be in to fire the fatal shot. A man and a woman claimed to see a security guard fire shots at Sirhan, and a witness said this in an interview immediately after the shooting. RFK's last conscious action was ripping Eugene's tie off—why would he do that? It could be dismissed as accidental if, and it's a big if, there wasn't an incompetent investigation by the LAPD on a second shooter, or why they didn't take Eugene's gun that he had on the night and didn't interview him for a year.
In that interview, he said he had a .22 same used in the shooting, which he sold before the shooting. This was confirmed to be false as there is a receipt showing he sold it months after to another man. Why would he lie about this? The LAPD said there were no right-wingers there on the night of the killing but guess who was our good friend Eugene. He said in an interview he didn't like Kennedy and was a Republican. Just a bit weird. Eugene was leading RFK down this route as the other path was deemed too crowded or unsafe in a last minute change. To clarify, Eugene was not the only one holding on to Kennedy. Eugene was a very weird person who had a top-secret clearance at Lockheed but was working as a security guard just doesn't make sense.
Also the court granted Thane Caesars wish not to testify.
How do you know this polka-dot lady was involved? Two witnesses stated she was saying, "We killed him, killed him." She was also seen trying to buy a gun and ammo with Sirhan and another man, and there is proof of the sale. in total, she was seen by 10 different people at the Ambassador Hotel.
So why would Sirhan do this? MKULTRA. Sirhan Sirhan was working as a horse trainer or whatever. He never rode horses, but one day he did and he got concussed. He was recorded as going into a Naval hospital for 1 hour and discharged. Sirhan states that he was there for weeks. After the fall, everyone who knew Sirhan said he was different after that fall. Sirhan disappeared for 3 months before the assassination as well, his mother stated.
“On a foggy morning on Sept. 25, 1966, Sirhan fell from a mare named Hy-Vera. “Sirhan was thrown against a metal post, where he lay crumpled, crying and bleeding,” wrote James McKinley. Sirhan later received a $2,000 settlement over the incident.”
Declassified documents have revealed that the CIA was actively monitoring Robert F. Kennedy and had operatives present at the Ambassador Hotel on the night of his assassination. Investigative journalist Shane O'Sullivan's research highlighted the presence of three men identified as former CIA operatives at the hotel, raising questions about their role and purpose that night. These operatives, including George Joannides, David Morales, and Gordon Campbell, were all connected to various covert CIA activities.
Lieutenant Manuel Peña, a key figure in charge of the investigation, left the LAPD shortly before the assassination to work in South America for the Agency for International Development (USAID), a widely known CIA front. Shortly before the assassination, he came back to the LAPD and was given command of the Special Division Investigation Squad in charge of conspiracies.
The possible involvement of the CIA and other intelligence agencies cannot be dismissed. The chaotic political climate of the 1960s, marked by the assassinations of major political figures like JFK, MLK, and RFK, The CIA, known for its covert operations and psychological experiments, had the means and motive to conduct such an operation.
Eugene Thane Cesar's role remains suspicious. He was in the perfect position to fire the fatal shots, and his conflicting statements about his firearm ownership add to the suspicion. Cesar's background with top-secret clearance at Lockheed and his animosity towards Kennedy suggest a deeper involvement. His presence in the pantry and the physical evidence pointing to shots fired from his location make him a prime suspect.
The polka dot dress woman remains a mysterious figure. Witnesses consistently reported her presence and her suspicious behavior. Her alleged statements about "killing him" and attempts to purchase firearms with Sirhan indicate her involvement in the conspiracy. Despite the LAPD's efforts to discredit witnesses and dismiss their accounts, the consistency of their testimonies cannot be ignored.
The destruction and tampering of evidence by the LAPD and FBI further deepen the conspiracy. The removal of door frames, ceiling panels, and the disappearance of crucial photographs suggest an intentional cover-up. Scott Enyart's case exemplifies the mishandling of evidence. His missing photographs, which could have provided critical insights into the events in the pantry.
In 1992, a petition to the grand jury requested the appointment of a special prosecutor to investigate the LAPD, signed by many figures, with 800 pages of evidence showing the LAPD destroying and falsifying evidence. Notable signatories included RFK assassination researchers rights activists, and legal experts. The petition outlined numerous instances of evidence tampering, witness intimidation, and procedural irregularities surrounding the investigation into RFK's assassination. It argued that a special prosecutor was necessary to conduct an impartial and thorough investigation into the LAPD's handling of the case, given the gravity of the allegations and the implications for justice and accountability. Despite the compelling evidence presented in the petition, no special prosecutor was appointed.
The involvement of intelligence agencies, the manipulation of evidence, the intimidation of witnesses, and the use of hypnotic techniques on Sirhan paint a picture of a complex and deep conspiracy. The possibility of mind control, as seen in the MKULTRA experiments, aligns with Sirhan's behaviour and writings. The presence of a second shooter, likely Eugene Thane Cesar, and the mysterious polka dot dress woman, make me believe beyond a reasonable doubt that Sirhan did not Kill Robert F. Kennedy alone.
TL;DR In conclusion, the evidence suggests that the parts of CIA, the LAPD, Eugene Thane Cesar, and the polka dot dress lady were part of a conspiracy to assassinate Robert F. Kennedy. The deliberate destruction of evidence, the manipulation of Sirhan through hypnosis, and the suspicious activities of key figures involved in the case point to a coordinated effort to eliminate Kennedy. The official narrative does not hold up against the substantial evidence of a second shooter and the involvement of intelligence agencies. After looking at all this evidence, no person could conclude any differently.

21F I completed my btech in mechanical engineering this year (fresher) from a government college. Secured job within the campus which offers me around 4.2lpa as a design engineer still haven't received any offer letter from them (but they do sent me letter of intent). I don't if I should join or should I prepare for gate. My sister is going to join btech this year. I need to support my family but what can I do with a 30k pm ?? I should survive with in my salary and also should send some money to my family.

Ok so our relationship has been rocky for awhile now but I’ve always kept trying to fix it. We went on holiday recently and when we came home it would be an understatement to say that I have felt totally disconnected and upset most of the time. Turn to this weekend it has been amazing, we’ve had lots of fun, laughed etc so much so that he said I feel hopeful about the future. (I even did his uni assignment for him) However, yesterday it all went wrong. He has a daughter (12) who I have admitted to him I’ve found hard to be around recently due to our relationship (I’ve made it clear it isn’t her or that she’s doing anything wrong just that when the relationships bad it makes it hard for me). So he said she was coming at the weekend (she usually comes mon- Fri) her mums recently moved some distance away and her mum isn’t the best and makes her get the bus home herself from school on a Friday, I said to him how is she going to know how to get home after school the following Friday, its a 35 minute drive from us and atleast 2 buses and she has done it before about 2 years ago but I said how will she remember that and I ultimately ended up saying as if you’re not going to make sure her mum shows her. He responded by saying you’re not marriage material. Which really upset me because as he knows it’s something I really want to do at some point. I left but went back in and said that what he said was unnecessary and uncalled for and he said it wasn’t because it was how he felt. I was honestly devastated that after this really nice weekend all of a sudden there’s an issue and a big one at that. He was working from home and I was off work. I went to the gym he blocked me on WhatsApp and I text him saying I was sorry (even tho I wasn’t really sure what for) and he asked me to get him something from the shop on the way home which I did. When I came home I pottered around a bit before going in and saying are we just going to have a bad day and he said yes probably. Well this is where I get in the wrong because I just couldn’t let it lie I was so upset I wanted to fix it so badly but he wouldn’t listen or try fix it back, he kept asking me to leave but I just felt like I couldn’t, I just wanted to fix it and clearly my emotional brain was messing with the rational one. I think I have an anxious attachment style so I don’t like conflict lasting and fear being left at the drop of a hat. I obviously wish in hindsight I had just left him alone because he kept saying hurtful things which made me more emotional and more desperate in a way to fix it. I did eventually go out but I guess the damage was done and he ended up doing little work all day. He said I drained the life out of him that he couldn’t face doing anything. I don’t understand why he couldn’t offer the reassurance or kindness or compassion to say we’d sort it out later or something when I came in I feel like he had the position of power to make it a bit ok, he knows I had no malicious intention of not leaving him alone I purely wanted to fix it. It came out eventually that the reason why what I said was an issue is because he feels like I have an issue with his daughter which as mentioned I have tried to explain and be honest about it but no matter how much I said that wasn’t the case etc he wouldn’t listen. I even offered to go pick her up today and take her out with our other children in the hope of trying to make things better. He said he was leaving but didn’t leave and said he’d leave today. I slept on the couch. He said he isn’t coming home. I know I should have left him alone and wish I had but I think this is perhaps a case of one person caring and another not, because surely there was no reason for us to have a full day of hell over what was said. He says he isn’t sorry for anything he said and I’m not normal and should be able to control my emotions. He says I need to grow up. I’ve had long term relationships before and never had any issues like this he hasn’t had long term relationships. I feel totally lost. I love him but I feel at rock bottom from this relationship. I feel like I am being punished like a child. He says that I effectively was blackmailing him by not leaving him alone, all I wanted was some reassurance that even if we didn’t fix it now we would later. I poured my eyes out pretty much all day I even begged (pathetic I know) and he wouldn’t give on anything. I’m scared about him not coming home, I feel like if he doesn’t I have to end it, we have a child together and I don’t have the luxury of just not coming home. I don’t know how to navigate the day now. He doesn’t care that I’m upset or riddled with anxiety and didn’t any point. I suppose the flip side is I was probably selfish not leaving him alone 😔 it’s just a mess Help!

As we all know, the economy has just sucked, and ever since my dad moved back in with my mom, sister, and I without a job for an internship and has not yet found work, it has been me being the breadwinner. Unfortunately, with that, I have had to incur some debt with credit cards. I'm paying down many of them, and I have gotten rid of a lot of debt, thankfully. However, there's still a little ways to go. I'm working multiple jobs and side gigs. However, if I could have one more that was a bit consistent, it would be much more helpful. My main job, although I love my work in research, as a research assistant at a university doesn't pay enough, which also pushes me to apply to different roles, fellowships, internships, side gigs, and all of that. I get no PTO and no sick time, and for other opportunities I have, I have to lose income, so it's a huge cost analysis. If I got insurance, I would barely have a check. The best thing I could do is to put some money toward my 403(b). If I can't have savings, I can at least put some money away when my older self needs it for retirement, I guess. Which is better than some, so I'm grateful for that.
I graduated from college last year, and a couple of weeks ago, I officially made it a year. Honestly, I know I'm doing pretty well, and honestly, compared to others, at least I have some job, even though it's not offering a lot. But I feel stressed. Like the world is on my shoulders, I'm only 22, turning 23. I want to do a Ph.D. specifically in neuropsychology. However, MPH has been catching my eye, especially with the work I have picked up. I've found a program that isn't expensive due to my state having affordable programs, and the program has great networking, too.
However, when I apply, I feel that when I find out who got it, the person ends up being in a master's program or graduate school of some kind or has graduated, even if it seems like I may have more experience. I feel like I can't really complain to anyone because people may think it's all good because I do take advantage of opportunities when I can, and I have gotten opportunities in the past.
I had an interview two weeks ago, and I knew the person through other work we've done together. It felt like the interview went well, but I was rejected. It just feels that even with connections and work, it is rough. I also got rejected from two other opportunities that I wanted and would've been a big deal. I got those rejections on the same day. There was a huge video opportunity that would've looked great, but they decided to put a pause on it, which is so frustrating :/ and was one of the things I was so excited about.
I'm trying to be optimistic, but it's rough. I even got rejected from an opportunity when I met them since they wanted to see where I could fit in other spaces. They eagerly told me to apply again next year, and I am because I don't want to give up. I will do the same with the other opportunities as I will have a stronger experience. But we met, we had a plan, and they haven't followed up with me. I also missed the deadline for something that would've been a great opportunity because I mistook the time zone for CST when it was CET :/
I'm just hoping for better luck next year. I was able to meet with someone who provided some helpful tips for my resume and cover letter. I will work on that, and hopefully, I will get better luck. This person offered to look over my applications, too. I'm looking forward to seeing what can come out of it, and hopefully, I can get something better paying, and I don't have to continue stacking on jobs.

Searching through old threads + checking the schools’ websites show I should be having my school send letters of good standing directly to the transfer school’s office (if the form isn’t already provided in the app). Do I need to send this in before I get accepted? Is this part of their review process (iirc, i sent my undergrad letter of good standing to ONLY the one law school i decided to matriculate to a year ago, after i accepted and deposited).

I honestly just want to take this off my chest, but any advise would be great :). My girlfriend (22f, who we will call Jen) and I (22f) have been in a serious and healthy relationship for more than two years now. I met her in university, and we soon hit it off and started flirting. I have never been more madly in love with anybody than now. She is sweet, comprehensive, mature, caring and sincerely the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. A couple of week from starting a relationship with her, we talked about our past and our traumas. That is when she told me she had a female best friend form school (we’ll call her Amy), and that she had been secretly very in love with her. As being her friend and watching her get into different relationships, Jen suffered deeply and finally decided to confess her feelings with the intention of knowing if maybe she felt the same, or if it was better to take distance. When this occurred, Amy let her know in a very clear way that nothing would ever happen between them, and that she was sorry that she had to distance herself from her in orden to heal. This obviously broke Jen’s heart even further, and had her crying everyday to sleep for weeks or months.
Flash forward to now, we have had the best 2 years of our lives, and are madly in love. However, yesterday she recieved a request message from her old friend, which was odd since they hadn’t spoken for almost 4 years. When that happened Jen was on the phone with me, so she told me immediately. Of course, both of us where shook. After a minute of Jen asking her if everything was alright, Amy told her that she has something important that she needed to say, and if they could meet up for a coffee. Jen shook her off and told her that she preferred not to, and if maybe she could text it. Amy proceeded to tell her that she had been the last couple of months thinking how she had messed things up with her, and that since she had started to date women, they all reminded her of her(Jen). My girlfriend didn’t know what to say (because Amy knows that she is in a relationship with me), and didn’t engage too much in the conversation keeping things polite. I want to clarify that Jen didn’t respond something that disrespected the boundaries of our relationship or anything like that, and turned her down when Amy asked once again if they could meet and catch up.
However, I have been feeling a bit stressed with the situation, since Amy was Jen’s biggest heart break, and I can’t help but feel a little bit insecure. At the same time, it is hard for me to express this feelings, as Jen has never said or maid anything to make me feel like I’m not enough or that she could leave me for someone else.
Even though I’m sure our relationship is very strong, I can’t help but wonder if the messages opened something from the past for Jen, or something like that. How would you guys feel if something like that happened to you?💀 I need advise please, I really don’t enjoy feeling this way.

i feel so alone i dont know what im doing in the world. i dont know what i can do anymore other than give up. im (20F) an only child, i have a bad relationship w my parents, we moved a lot throughout my childhood so i dont have any extended family where i live. most of my extended family arent good people anyway, all of my grandparents are divorced, theres a history of mental illness in our family and most of them have become bitter and taken it out on others. just negative, unsupportive people. my mom tries her best in her own way but shes extremely religious and homophobic (im bisexual and id say im spiritual but definitely not religious) and my dad is very strong minded about politics, he was a trump supporter and has very conservative views which i dont agree with at all. they dont even get along with eachother and i grew up w them screaming at eachother almost constantly my whole life.
my high school experience was ruined by covid and i lost the friend group that gave me a will to live bc i dated someone in it and when we broke up they all took his side (it’s a lot to explain but there was only 4 people in the group, the other guy only took his side bc of something along the lines of bro code, and my best friend took his side bc she had secretly liked him and ended up taking him from me). i already had trust issues but this is where it started to get worse. since then ive had so many friendships and relationships that i truly dont have the time to get into the details of, and i really dont want to come off as having a victim complex at all when i say this but i’ve been continuously done so wrong by people. im a very self aware person, ive grieved so much, ive looked for every fault in myself and blamed myself for so many things but at the end of the day i had nothing but good intentions for every single one of those people and i loved them and gave them everything i could.
i just feel so lost and alone now. i dont have a support system, no family, and my trust issues are so bad i dont think i’ll ever be able to feel secure in a relationship or even friendships again. im so tired of watching everyone except me experience genuine love platonically, romantically and from their family. when will it be my turn. if i marry a girl my parents will cut me off. i dont know if i even want to marry a man at this point bc i feel like every guy ive been with has used me for my body. my ex told me the only reason he liked me was bc im “hot and always dtf”. i never cry in front of people but i sobbed in his arms after hearing that bc it triggered something so deep in me.
i dont feel lovable. im tired of living and knowing that i will never truly be loved. i dont know what im doing wrong. im “conventially” attractive, dyed platinum blonde hair and green/hazel eyes, 5’1, not under or overweight. i have good style imo (for reference kinda maddy perez style, eyeliner mostly black and light blues and more on the feminine side). im very emotionally intelligent and strong bc of what ive been through and im loyal, im the type of person that if u have me u 100% can count on me and i will always be there no matter what. everytime ive been in a relationship i dont entertain or talk to other people at all. i hand make really personal gifts for people i love and am really intentional about buying things and will go all out and write long letters. i have a good aesthetic, im always clean and always smell good, im not overly friendly to people in a people pleasing way but i think im really sweet. i was really quiet for a long time bc my mental health issues made me feel unlovable (i have cptsd) but at my core im an extrovert and i feel like you can tell when i talk bc i do speak loudly and im very bubbly. i love being around people too and going out clubbing/to raves, drinking, sm0king. typical things that people consider extroverted ig. im also very artsy, music has been my passion since i was a toddler and ive made songs and tbh i have a lot of potential. i hate saying im good at music bc it makes me feel like one of those wannabe soundcloud rappers but i really am and ive made really pretty songs for someone who uses garageband. im good at artistic things in general.
i kinda suck at school but i feel like my mental health made academics take a backseat in my life a lot of the time and i wish i was better. im currently in college for psychology but i dont know how im ever supposed to help people when i can barely help myself. if im being honest psychology is not my passion at all, theres no college degree that i can see myself working as but psych suited me the best. i moved far away from my hometown for college to a popular tourist place but recently moved back bc it was expensive and couldnt see myself living there long term. i still have two years left, probably more bc im behind on classes.
i just feel lost. i feel like what’s the point of life if im not loved? i dont want all i ever do to be studying to get a degree for a job im not passionate about. when i think about how i wont have family or friends cheering for me at my graduation it makes me even less motivated. ideally i’d want to pursue music and start my own fashion business. ive heard enough about that being unrealistic and i understand, but at the same time im extremely creative and it would be possible for me to succeed at those things if i really put my all into it.
now that im back in my “hometown” my parents are planning to move again to somewhere cheaper w less taxes and its making me sad bc even though i hate this place my room in this house has always been my safe space. i painted things on the walls, put pictures up everywhere, my window opens to a roof i can sit on. i dont think id even be able to recreate this and if they moved i wouldnt want to recreate it anyway bc im 20 now so id rather work towards my own place. but even that is so unrealistic in this economy and i dont know if i can achieve it. college is not my thing and i have a horrible work ethic when it comes to anything but artistic things.
the conclusion i came to was to just ghost everyone and work on myself, (workout, make music, attempt to start a small clothing brand on insta/etsy) while taking online classes so if all that fails at least i have a degree. thats what i decided to come back home to do and ig it logically makes sense but i still feel so alone and unloved and im scared.
i dont know what type of answers im looking for in posting this, i just want to know what other people would do in my situation. thank you if you read this far, i appreciate you so much <3

I honestly just want to take this off my chest, but any advise would be great :). My girlfriend (22f, who we will call Jen) and I (22f) have been in a serious and healthy relationship for more than two years now. I met her in university, and we soon hit it off and started flirting. I have never been more madly in love with anybody than now. She is sweet, comprehensive, mature, caring and sincerely the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. A couple of week from starting a relationship with her, we talked about our past and our traumas. That is when she told me she had a female best friend form school (we’ll call her Amy), and that she had been secretly very in love with her. As being her friend and watching her get into different relationships, Jen suffered deeply and finally decided to confess her feelings with the intention of knowing if maybe she felt the same, or if it was better to take distance. When this occurred, Amy let her know in a very clear way that nothing would ever happen between them, and that she was sorry that she had to distance herself from her in orden to heal. This obviously broke Jen’s heart even further, and had her crying everyday to sleep for weeks or months.
Flash forward to now, we have had the best 2 years of our lives, and are madly in love. However, yesterday she recieved a request message from her old friend, which was odd since they hadn’t spoken for almost 4 years. When that happened Jen was on the phone with me, so she told me immediately. Of course, both of us where shook. After a minute of Jen asking her if everything was alright, Amy told her that she has something important that she needed to say, and if they could meet up for a coffee. Jen shook her off and told her that she preferred not to, and if maybe she could text it. Amy proceeded to tell her that she had been the last couple of months thinking how she had messed things up with her, and that since she had started to date women, they all reminded her of her(Jen). My girlfriend didn’t know what to say (because Amy knows that she is in a relationship with me), and didn’t engage too much in the conversation keeping things polite. I want to clarify that Jen didn’t respond something that disrespected the boundaries of our relationship or anything like that, and turned her down when Amy asked once again if they could meet and catch up.
However, I have been feeling a bit stressed with the situation, since Amy was Jen’s biggest heart break, and I can’t help but feel a little bit insecure. At the same time, it is hard for me to express this feelings, as Jen has never said or maid anything to make me feel like I’m not enough or that she could leave me for someone else.
Even though I’m sure our relationship is very strong, I can’t help but wonder if the messages opened something from the past for Jen, or something like that. How would you guys feel if something like that happened to you?💀 I need advise please, I really don’t enjoy feeling this way.

I just discovered this sub and only did because I saw a comment by u/perttygood on a thread from last year referring to me. I was the victim of an incident early last year where I made artwork for Elyse but was then rabidly attacked by her fanbase when she made a video indirectly calling me out. It’s been well over a year since this happened, but I felt like this is the only appropriate place to tell my story. I don’t care if nobody reads this, but I’m just leaving it here so I can bury the hatchet and move on.
I’d been a big fan of Elyse since I joined TikTok, which was right around when she started blowing up (mid to late 2021). I thought she was hilarious and found a lot of her body positivity videos to be helpful for me. And I loved being able to watch her become more successful in real time. In early 2022, I began making artwork where I would handwrite entire movie scripts to create a design. From the beginning, it was something I figured I could make money off of by selling prints, and I had already gained a small following on TikTok for posting videos about my artwork.
Sometime mid-2022, Elyse made a video in tears about the mental toll her job has on her and how she doesn’t think she’s making a difference. So since I was getting started making these posters, I thought that one thing I could do was use the same technique and use transcriptions of her most inspirational videos and send her a print as a way to show her that she does make a difference. Back then, she had her P.O. Box address posted and she would do unboxing videos on YouTube; so I thought it would be cool if I sent her the poster and she would film her reaction to it. If she had like a logo or something I might’ve used that as the image, but instead chose a picture of her from her website. Oh, and my wife was completely supportive of the project since she was also a big Elyse fan.
As I said, the idea from the beginning was always to make something that could be sold, and I figured that posters with Elyse’s motivational videos could make for a good merch item that I could collaborate with her publicity team to sell. So when I mailed her the print, I included a letter mentioning that and said that if she wanted to just keep her for herself, that’s totally fine; but, if she wanted to collaborate on selling the design, that was also an option. I didn’t want to publicly reveal the finished product unless or until she had responded just in case she did want to sell them.
At this point, I should acknowledge that I definitely developed a parasocial relationship with her, particularly because she was so vulnerable in the video that prompted the whole project. Obviously, I wasn’t aware of that at the time (I didn’t know what that term meant until later), but I can admit that in hindsight. I can also admit that sending her a gift but bundling it with a business opportunity was probably not the best idea; but as I said, I was leaving it up to her whether anything was ever done with the design. Oh, and also I’m on the spectrum. I don’t always think these things though.
Six months go by and I don’t hear anything, and she also never posted a new unboxing video. So I had given up on the prospect that anything would come from it, and my other artwork was really starting to take off and I was growing a good sized following. By that point, she had cut her hair to that short curly style, so I figured that there was no point trying to sell my design since it included her old hairstyle. So I decided to just make a video revealing the poster since I wasn’t expecting anything to come from it anyway. And, like I did with all my posters, I made a couple quick follow-up video responses to comments.
Dozens, if not hundreds, of people were tagging Elyse in my videos, demanding she see it and react to the poster. She did eventually comment “I have this fanart! I cried so hard when I opened it!!” In another video where I mentioned how the hair isn’t accurate anymore, she commented “The hair doesn’t change how incredible the art is. It’s hanging in my office and honestly it makes me cry a little every time I see it. I made a po unboxing for YouTube and haven’t gotten around to posting it. I’ll post it so I can show you my reaction!” And I responded with “Take your time!” I made another video telling people Elyse responded and asked everyone to stop tagging her since she’s already seen it. At one point in the subsequent weeks, Jonas did actually comment on one or two of my videos Elyse’s manager’s email so I could talk to them about prints and stuff.
About a month goes by and I don’t hear anything from Elyse or her manager. Then I opened up the app one day and see an onslaught of notifications for the comments that were flooding my videos about the poster. Things like “You owe Elyse an apology,” “You’re being distasteful,” “I’m so disappointed in you, Elyse doesn’t owe you anything.” It took me a minute to discover that they all came from a new Elyse video where she very timidly mentioned her P.O. Box and people sending things to her, and how an artist sent her something expecting some kind of brand deal and it made her really uncomfortable, and that people shouldn’t expect things out of her if they’re going to send her stuff. She never technically calls me by name or shows the poster, but she described in detail the type of artwork it was and what it looked like. I noticed that the suggested phrase in the search box was “artist mad at Elyse Myers” and basically all the suggested searches were things like “Elyse Myers artist controversy,” “Elyse Myers fanart words written out.” Basically, it didn’t take much for people to find me. Especially with people tagging me in the comments.
I discovered all this late at night, after my wife had gone to bed, so I made a really candid video responding to the situation and saying that I felt terrible about causing Elyse any more anxiety. I also clarified my intent and mentioned my neurodivergence. Because of how negative the comments were, I tried having the comments turned off on that video; however, people would just comment on all my other videos (videos completely unrelated about my other artwork) about it. So I just turned the comments back on so people could just let it all out on me there. Some of them were appalling, with many people telling me I’m can’t use my autism as an excuse, that I was being unfaithful to my wife, that I was being a predatory man by demanding Elyse’s attention, and one person threatening me. There were also at least 3 people who took my videos and analyzed the things I did and said and dissected them, saying I was being manipulative and overall just stating (not speculating) what my intent was when it wasn’t true at all. The comments on those videos were even worse because they didn’t think I’d find them, a lot of people thought I was lying about my autism or marriage and that I was just a creepy incel.
Amid all of this, I insisted that Elyse did nothing wrong and that I didn’t put any blame on her. After all, it was her fans who had tagged her dozens of times in my videos and it was her fans who rabidly came after me (even though Elyse never called me by name). However, you can see which comments the creator ‘likes’, and she would ‘like’ comments like “You should’ve just sent it back” or really just generally negative things about me. She even commented on one of those videos dissecting my videos. And it took me awhile to realize that while I was spending all this effort defending her and blaming her fans, she had done nothing except throw me under the bus.
She never once reached out to me privately. If she had DM’d me to tell me people tagging her was overwhelming, I would’ve done something about it. If she had gone back and just said “actually, I don’t think I’m going to post that YouTube video after all,” I would’ve been fine with that. Even if she flat-out ghosted me and I never heard anything about it again, I would’ve accept it. But instead, she made a video calling me out and probably thought it was okay since she never technically name-dropped me. And she was thoroughly aware that people were trash-talking me and hating on my artwork. But she did nothing to stop the haters from doing what they did.
The whole thing got me so hurt and bitter that I ended up unfollowing her on all my socials because seeing her videos pop up reminded me of the incident. I noticed that she eventually (like 2 or 3 months later) took down her video about me, so I decided to take down all my videos about the situation, including any videos that showed the poster. I even convinced one of the people who made a video using footage of me that included the poster to take theirs down, and I just wanted any evidence of it gone.
To my knowledge, Elyse never saw any of my apology videos (if she did, she never responded to them). I figured out a way to block comments tagging her or her name so she was never tagged in them. A little while later, I had made a poster for The Office, and since she was clearly a fan, I decided to send a print to her and included the note: “Figured you might like this. Sorry for all the drama the first poster caused.” I thought of it like an olive branch, but I never told anyone I did this out of fear of being called disingenuous. Well, within a week of the package being marked as delivered, I discovered that she (or someone from her team) blocked me. It could’ve been a coincidence, but it also could’ve been a reaction to the second poster.
Amid all this, I learned that I was one of at least three creators within a 6 month period who were the victims of Elyse’s insane fans. There was one woman who had told an awkward story about a week before Elyse told a really similar story, and fans accused her of stealing Elyse’s story. And there was another guy who did know Elyse as a teenager and who had done some hurtful things to her and her fans dug up information about him and exposed who he was. I made a very stern video responding to that situation, it’s the only public video I’ve made where I’m visibly and legitimately angry. Both of those other two reached out to me and we all let each other vent about it.
It’s been almost a year since I got blocked and I have barely thought about her or the situation since then. My print of the poster has remained rolled up in the back of my closet. I never heard about her second kid and only recently found out about her leaving TikTok and Instagram. I’m not really mad or hateful towards her at this point, I’m just completely indifferent.
TL;DR - I made a piece of fan art for Elyse. Six months later, she commented on my video saying she got it and loves it. Later she posted a video saying that the situation made her uncomfortable and I became the target of her angry mob of fans. I initially defended her, but she only threw me under the bus. Eventually she blocked me.

I met this girl on a friend making app that's basically a dating app for teenagers called yubo. We really hit it off and almost immediately after we started talking I deleted that app to be with her. It was the best thing to ever happen to me. We talked a lot and texted each other right after school, we called every moment we had time and we foughy against our sleep so we can videocall with each other just that little bit more. She understood me so well, everything was so perfect and I thought I was good to her too, always loyal and supportive. I told my friends and parents about her she was so good and I was so hopeful. Then it was time for the end of school exams where she told me she didn't want to think about relationship and didn't really want to be in one because she wasn't ready, afraid shed hurt herself or me. She said I wasn't tied down but even after she suggested me literally not to text her for a month until exams were over I still insisted on waiting for her because I loved her so much. We still talked a bit just much less and we focused more on our friendship side of relationship than the romantic side. When comicon was around here I even went to buy her a hello kitty plushie because she didn't have any and she loved hello kitty. She was excited for it. At some point I started getting on her nerves however because I'd send her a text and she'd be studying and I'd distract her. She'd apologize for her mood but even though it hurt me it was fine. I understand she was stressed from school as she's a really good student and the last thing she probably needed was me bothering her. But I'm a fucking idiot. I ruined all of it. I could have just waited like I did and appreciated our time together until she was ready to get back together. A month? A summer? A year? What does it matter, I loved her. But me who I never fucking thought I'd do anything like this got emotional and downloaded some of those stupid dating apps again and updated my profile and shit. I swiped some people and chatted but never anything serious and I deleted or blocked all of them. I was disgusted with myself and deleted the apps a few days in. Things continued being the same with her while I was hoping she'd never find out but then her friend recognized my profile on an app and told her. And she knew it was while after we talked since it had recent photos. She confronted me. I tried my best to ask for forgiveness and apologize but she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore and blocked me. The whole time I wanted her so much, I learned songs on piano and guitar for her, I drew her, sometimes she'd be all I could talk about with friends and they would cringe. I wanted us to meet each other's parents. Why, after everything I wanted to do for her did I fail like this. I can't tell you why I downloaded the apps again, I had no intention, literally 0 of getting with any girl, of texting her or going out with her. I just did. Why. I don't know and I can't explain why but I ruined everything I ruined my life I betrayed her and I made her sad. I came here to post this not because I'm seeking empathy or anything like that, I don't deserve it. I didn't talk to anyone but I did shit that I would never respect on other people and now I'm paying the price. No, I am posting this to get yelled at, to be ridiculed like I deserve. I don't deserve to be happy after what I did

So, as per Sam and Ben's social media posts (both on Instagram respectively), now we have a very narrow sneak peak on where Season 11 will start from - Italy. As we saw how previous seasons went so far, I'd confidently say we can at least now predict the brief location/format of each season, in rotation:
Let's say N is a non-negative integer:

• Season 4N+1: An experiment with new locations or new game styles - examples of this include Season 1 (the very first season in which Jet Lag: The Game was introduced) and Season 9 (the season where Hide & Seek, a very new game format, was introduced in a very new location)
  
• Season 4N+2: Must NOT be within the United States - Seasons 2 (Globetrotting), 6 (Capture the Flag at Japan) and 10 (Australia) all follow this trend.
  
• Season 4N+3: Both seasons 3 and 7 have been TAG-EUR-IT seasons, and based on what the trio wore on today's social media posts, I would say it is logical to guess there is some chance that S11 starting in Italy could be a TAG-EUR-IT 3 with different start points (obviously).
  
• Season 4N+4: Must be within the United States (or North America) - so far both Seasons 4 and 8 took place within the United States even if it meant the teams had to go up to Alaska. I intentionally stated 'North America' because in the future and because Canada shares a massive land border with the United States, the design probably wouldn't forbid Canada from being included.
  

Assuming this is the playbook of Jet Lag season patterns, from what I've seen in this subreddit so far, any hopes for a Britain season (with Tom Scott or others) or any other location they haven't covered yet, will probably be a Season 13 or 14 at the earliest. And of course, this is a mere speculation with a very small sample size, so there's a good chance it can be wrong in the near future.
Let me know what y'all here think of this speculation!

Let me start by saying, given the sheer amount of time and effort I've put into obtaining this small piece of paper, it has immediately become one of my most prized possessions.
Backstory:
I'm 25 years old with a history of absence seizures and treatment between the ages of 7-12 years old. Also, I have dysgraphia (poor handwriting) through school.
My Application Process
I started this journey back in June 2021 after wrapping up my junior year of college. Despite knowing about my medical history, I naively visited my local AME without any preparation and applied for my 3rd class medical. In hindsight, and as many people recommend, I should have come prepared with documents, tests, and sign-offs from my neurologist. Without much surprise, I was deferred and entered the limbo that is FAA OKC.
Four months later, in October 2021, I heard back. The new letter required I complete the following:

• A neurological evaluation from my doctor
• An awake and asleep EEG
• An MRI with and without contrast
• Fill out a seizure questionnaire and gather all medical documents and history relating to my condition

Given I was in the middle of wrapping up my senior year of college in a very rural town, I was in no place to start this. I didn't reply and received another letter stating that my application was on hold until I provided the requested information.
In August 2022, after graduating and getting a job, I finally got around to scheduling the procedures and gathering the documents. Everything was relatively easy to order with the help of my doctor. The only issue I ran into was that the FAA had requested the actual files of the EEG on a CD for Windows 10, but the hospital could only provide Windows 7 software and shrugged their shoulders when asked if there was a newer version. Additionally, I had read through my medical documents and discovered a typo in one of the medical reports, which noted I was drinking 2-3 drinks a day, not a week as I had said. I reached out to the doctor who had made this note, and they added a follow-up message to the report. After everything was complete, and with a little note explaining the software snag, I sent off the package in late September 2022.
Six months later, in April 2023, I heard back. This time, not with a medical, but with another list of tasks. The new list included:

• A 10-panel drug screen within 48 hours of signing for the letter
• A weed & alcohol questionnaire
• Documents regarding my dysgraphia, including IEPs, 504s, and accommodations And the worst part:
• A full ADHD test with a drug screen within 24 hours of completion

The first three made sense, given they were all in my medical history. Before I went off to college, I had asked my neurologist if it was safe to use weed recreationally. Even though I never did, I'm guessing that's what triggered the response.
The ADHD request, however, took me by surprise. Even to this day, I have no idea what triggered the request. I've never had any history of it or even the thought of it. My best guess is that one of the epilepsy medications I took doubles as an ADHD drug. Unfortunately, they never tell you why.
The ADHD battery was the most expensive out of all this. I searched all around my area (Seattle, WA) and found quotes ranging from $2000 to $4000. I ended up going with a doctor who'd be the cheapest if I only did the first battery but more expensive if I had to do both. Since I don't have ADHD, I figured I could probably roll the dice.
I delayed the ADHD test for a long time as I wasn't sure if it would be worth the cost, given I could jump through all these hoops and likely get a Special Issuance requiring me to do this every year to maintain. Since I only have aspirations for a PPL, the maintenance cost wouldn't be worth it for me. Finally, I decided to bite the bullet and see it through. I got the ADHD battery done in mid-February of this year and passed with flying colors. I wrapped up the second package and sent it off in mid-April 2024.
I called weekly throughout this process to check on my status—always "in review" with no luck. Early this month, I read another post on here talking about reaching out to your congressional representative to contact the FAA on your behalf and having good success. I decided it was worth a shot and sent them a message on May 14th.
Two weeks later (today!), I got my medical in the mail!
The Results
I got issued a standard 3rd class medical with no SI clauses attached!
The only ironic part is that since I started this almost two years ago, this medical expires in just a few weeks. Luckily, it sounds like renewing an existing medical is much easier than applying for a new one.
I'm over the moon, and while I haven't even started gaining hours, I'm still so happy I saw this through. Thank you to this community for all the resources it has provided and for all the awesome people who hang out and give their time.
tl;dr timeline

• June 2021 - apply at AME, deffered
• October 2021 - received EEG/MRI request

[long break for school]

• September 2022 - sent response
• April 2023 - received ADHD'n'stuff request

[indecision]

• April 2024 - sent 2nd response
• May 2024 - received regular 3rd class medical

I was accepted to a MS program, and will be starting this Fall. I received the offer letter this week and realized that the University charges per semester instead of per course. I need to take ten courses spread out over three semesters With three semesters the total comes out to around $100k USD which is quite a bit.
They charge far less for part-time studies, at around 6k per course, so total 60k, however I need F1 Status, as an International student and I am therefore not allowed to do part-time. I am from Canada, if that helps in answering my question. So I basically have three options.

1. This is the cheapest option. Take 5 courses a semester in Fall and Winter, pay total $70k USD in fees. Advisor doesn't recommend this because, well its grad school and might be a bit much. Might have an impact on GPA, since 5 courses, even during undergrad were a lot for me to handle.
   
2. Second option is full-time for all three semesters, and hence have to pay 105k USD. Easier work-load, and it will be less stressful for sure.
   
3. This is the main one I am leaning towards, but haven't gotten a proper answer yet from the school. Take two semesters of full-time study, eight courses in total. Take two courses in the third semester part-time. I read somewhere that if its the last semester and you only have one-two courses left you are allowed to switch to part time studies to complete your education. Is that true, or are you expected to remain full-time unless due to extenuating circumstances? This option is the best, course load wise and would cost me an extra 12k instead of a full 35k if I did full-time but of course I can't choose this if it will violate the rules for maintaining F1 status. Any help would be appreciated!
   

My mental health has been really fucked I've even been going to a therapist these days
So it all started on 9th a girl in my class liked me and started conversation and we used to talk everyday on Instagram
She gave me hints for 2 years straight flirting and all that stuff but me being me, just took it casually, but yea, I liked her infact I still love her
Fast forward to 10th same students. There were no shuffling so we were again in same class and she still had a crush on me
10th came to an end at day of farewell we clicked photos had lot of fun and even wrote a small letter to me and told me to be in contact
She used to say I'm the her fav red flag. She used to tease me by calling me a red flag
We used exchange couple reels and all
But,
After boards I changed my school and she was still in the same school
But we were still in contact
But after some time, I deactivated my insta and that was the biggest mistake I made (I think)
We were not talking anymore. We had each other's numbers, but still I have this bad habit of not texting first
Recently, I came back to insta msged her about something related to my friend, but she didn't reply, but she was active in gc and was watching my stories
She has 2 acc one main and one private (most of the girls have where they post pictures).
Today my messages are still not answered and even removed me from the private account. She had posted a picture of us together in Jan and I think it's still there.
I can't process what's happening to me. Where I made a mistake.
I admit that I hadn't contacted her for almost 2 months, but she wished me on my birthday on 28 April
I can't lose her though she's a bit changed, like she's doing a bit of showoff, but I'm okay with her.
Now I can't focus on anything. What should I do

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/ElectronicMoon1676 posting in AskALawyer
Likely Concluded as per OOP
2 updates - Medium
Original - 13th May 2024
Update1 - 15th May 2024
Update2 - 23rd May 2024
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Mother wants to legally force me to live with her even though I am 39.
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So my mother (60) has always had a flair for dramatics and will convince herself of things that are just not true, and of course her brothers (my uncles) think it’s hilarious and will get her worked up even more, while making fun of her for being so gullible behind her back. I cut her out of my life 4 years ago. We are in Michigan. Someone I trust in the family came to me with concerns that my mother may lie to try to get conservatorship over me.
Here is what I know. Her current belief is that I am an unemployed alcoholic living in my car and being taken advantage of by evil men from the political party that she hates. This is not true. I have a place, pay my bills and had a full-time job last time we spoke. I did leave that job but I also returned to school full time on GI Bill, which includes a stipend for living expenses, and found a sweet part-time job, in an air conditioned office, on campus. As far as I know she has no idea I am back in school and I haven’t told anyone in my family, even the ones I trust, what is going on in my life.
Problem is that she lost her job of over 20 years during a mass lay off sometime since we last spoke. These new coworkers haven’t known her long enough to recognize how she doesn’t keep her stories straight or how she flip-flops things around. Basically she has led everyone she works with to believe I am only in my early-mid 20’s and haven’t quite finished my “teenage rebellion phase”, and she is a good mommy who just wants to save her baby from the evil political party.
They have all been “helping her with “research””, and believe because I have a disability rating from the VA, it means I am mentally incompetent. It does not at all mean that. Now I am positive that none of them actually understand how a VA disability rating actually works, my mother likely lied to them about it. Her new friends believe she can have me declared incompetent, force me to live with her for monitoring, and finally take control of my finances thus getting control of my disability payments. I have an 80 rating which is currently just under $2000 a month.
My concern isn’t that my mother could prove I am incompetent but it’s that she could use court proceedings to get a hold of my address, school, or work place. I guess my question is about rules of discovery when it comes to conservatorship cases. Can my mother or any lawyer willing to take her case on actually get ahold of my personal info I don’t want her to have?
If I provide courts with documents proving my competence and ability to care for myself, do I have the right to ask the court to seal or redact any information or documents with info I don’t want her getting? She sabotaged me going to college around 20 years ago and I don’t want to go through that again. I am assuming that the first person I would ever have to deal with would be a social worker, and I want to know if I have any legal recourse to prevent the social worker from sharing my info with my mother?
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530_Oldschoolgeek
See if your college has some kind of free legal aid service they can direct you to, and explain this to them. They might be able to point you in the direction to get low cost or free legal services so an attorney can send your mother a cease and desist letter along with filing for a restraining order in such a manner as to not disclose your current whereabouts.
They might also have other ideas that will curtail any attempt by her to try to put a conservatorship in place.

OOP: I just checked and they don’t. But, silly me forgot, the VA clinic in my city has a social worker on site. I used her once for a medical power of attorney. But I bet she could either help me herself or get me to the right resource.

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Stunning-Interest15
Not a lawyer, but they pay me a shit ton of money to handle stuff like this as a private investigator. Here's my take.
Yes. Her lawyer will hire an investigator to find all of your information. They will pay online databrokers for your file and they will get WAY more than your address. (Everything. They will get everything. If you fucked up and said that thought you didn't want people knowing about, they will find that out.)
Any of that information that can then be found on Google is a public record since it's already on the public Internet. Your address is almost certainly among that data.
No court can sanction public information. Even if they could, the internet is forever and it's already out there.
So, bad news there. The good news is that you're a grown ass woman and the courts are not going to give her a conservatorship just because you have PTSD. You are in no danger of anything other than your mom showing up on your doorstep unannounced.

OOP: How likely are lawyers and private investigators to take on someone without the ability to pay. Do they have the ability to check credit scores. My mother is terrible with money. My brother confessed to me that she “sold the house” she bought with her third husband a little while after their divorce. By brother insinuated that she was in a bad way with money. I know that when I was 20 and she was 40, I had a better credit score than her. I went to buy a used car and she said she would have to co-sign cuz I was too young to have a good credit score. Turned out I got a better rate without her co-signing. Makes me wonder how bad someone’s credit has to be that you are detrimental to a loan as a co-signer.

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Update - 2 days later
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I tried to update the original post and couldn’t, and the update comment I left got buried at the bottom.
Backstory: Mother wanted me declared incompetent to gain control of me and my veteran disability payments.
So I talked with another family member who confirmed what the first said. Everyone is angry because I wasn’t suppose to find out what happened because “they were handling it”. I refused to tell who told me, which is causing more anger but whatever. So this situation had resolved itself last week. My mother was talking a big game about how she was calling lawyers and Adult Protective Services. After a few days she started trashing on all lawyers and saying that APS was wasting taxpayer dollars.
Apparently she has forgotten all about this whole mess. Her job got a new summer internet and my mother is obsessed. Every conversation anyone has with her is about this guy. My poor grandma has to have no less than a one hour conversation with my mother everyday about this guy. The guy comes from a lot of money, which in the end was what I think she wanted with me. This guy just turned 20 and my mother is 60.
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homer_lives
That sounds like a win for now. Most likely, APS "laughed" her out of the room. I would avoid contact since she sounds Manic, going from one scheme or idea to another.
shhh_its_me
Sounds like Mom needs a guardian
DredgenCyka
If I had a nickel for everytime I heard of someone's mom trying to force their 100% VA disabled veteran son or daughter to live with them by declaring them incompetent for self care, I'd have about 25 to 30 cents. It's just weird that it's happened that many times, and it's sad. Stay away from her, and thank you for your service!
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Update - 8 days later
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TLDR of my previous post was that my mother wanted to have me declared incompetent so she could get control of my veteran disability payments and force me to come live with her. I went no contact like 4 years ago. Her plan was to make up wild stories about me and it didn’t go her way. Now she is obsessed with this new intern at her job that comes from money, and seems to have forgotten all about her plan.
I was able to squeeze in meeting with the social worker who works at my VA clinic. I gave her the run down and even showed her my two previous posts. She thought it was kinda funny. She informed me that if a state SW were to be informed of a veteran in a need they would reach out to the VA and she would likely be a first point of contact.
She said that no one from the county or state has contacted her about me yet, but she would make a note. Apparently, the whole Britney Spears conservatorship has made a lot of people think it’s super easy to get conservatorships. She said some people think they will get paid a lot of money to do it. Her best guess is that if my mother did call, it was explained to her how complex the process is and that I would be guided to the VA to receive treatment first, before declaring me incompetent. She did agree with many of the comments that said my mother could find me pretty easily if she really wanted to.
The SW use to work at the state office and while she didn’t work at adult protective services but she had friends and coworkers who did. Money seemed to her to be a really big factor in how hard people fought to get conservatorship. She was surprisingly compassionate towards my mother and said sometimes parents just get worried and worry makes people do stupid things. She said some parents have a hard time adjusting to their children becoming adults and moving out.
Sometimes it’s because they are losing child support, or they’re losing the person who did all the chores, or because they just don’t want to face reality that their baby grew up. And these parents will lash out at the world instead of accepting the truth. She told me about a case a friend of hers had where the parents of an adult woman who had moved out couldn’t face reality. Her parents had been relying on her to do all the housework and raise her brothers. With her gone, everything fell apart at home.
These parents blamed their daughter who had moved out instead of taking responsibility for their own lives Her friend was so stressed by the case because she got yelled at by the parents almost daily about how the state needed to force their daughter to move back in with them. They never got their wish and almost lost their other kids. A grandparent found out what was happening and stepped up to set the parents straight.
Someone had messaged me saying my post was blowing up on social media and I went looking for it and couldn’t find it. They pointed out my family could see it, but I’ve decided I don’t care if they do.
So basically, if my mother really wants to find me she can, but the conservatorship isn’t that easy to get, and I know my mother well enough to know she doesn’t have the patience, or money needed to pursue this anymore. Also there seems to be a lot of rules surrounding conservatorship that I don’t think my mother would have liked following. So I should be good for a while.
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OOP in response to a deleted comment (presumably about the intern)

A far as I know he still works there and she is still obsessed.

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DredgenCyka
You should still remain in No Contact with your mom. This will still make it difficult to gain conservatorship over you. I also don't think the VA hospital will pronounce you incompetent at all unless you lost limbs or went into a vegetative state from a concussive blast, in addition 100% Disabled ≠ Incompetent to manage youre own life. Hopefully, the VA will become an advocacy group for you, im also pretty sure the VA offers lawyers to their veterans. You can ask about that if your mom steps out of line.
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Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments

Hey everyone! I'm applying mainly through TMDSAS but I'm also going to submit an AMCAS application in the next couple weeks. I know this might sounds bad, but I haven't really given much thought to where I would like to go outside of TX. However, I do know that I would like to go to a expected or backup school relative to my stats. I'm going to use MSAR at some point, but I'd also like to hear from you all. Do you guys have any suggestions for schools that might fit in or below my stats?

• Degree: B.A. Chemical Biology and Nutrition Minor
• MCAT: 514
• GPA: 3.79c, ~3.5-6s
• Clinical volunteering: ~230 hours
• Shadowing: ~90 hours, very impactful
• Research: ~1120 hours, multiple presentations/posters
• Non-clinical volunteering: ~150 hours
• 5 rec letters (3 profs and 2 docs in 1 HPAC packet)
• ECs have strong focus (>1k hrs) on music and student government, no leadership titles like "president" but plenty of other exec roles and leadership experience
• No gap year