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So I've been dating my gf for a year and she's pretty awesome, but theres one aspect of her thats just strange and its that she often wants me to be toxic to my friends/family - but she doesn't see it as toxic but assertive, and gets upset if I dont 'stand up for myself.'
But I think we have different opinions on what it means to stand up for myself.
So heres what happened yesterday. My friend cut his finger really bad while making food. He went to urgent care but it was closed. So he was sent to emergency at a hospital near where I live instead. Since I live in the hell hole that is Toronto Canada, the wait time he was given was 6 hours.
Now I have medical training. And he knew I lived close so he asked me if I can help him out instead.
Now, Saturday is my gfs only full day she can spend with me. Sunday shes at her church and volunteers. Friday night shes with her friends. Every other day of the week she has her classes during the day and works at night. So we were watching a movie she really likes at the time and wanted me to see. When I got the call from my friend I told her I should at least check if his wound is serious or not. Because if its serious I might be able to talk to emergency people but most likely I cant help. If its not serious I could just take him to my place, sterilize it, and do any mild first aid that might be required.
She was not happy about that. She said he's already at emergency. He can wait a few hours there.
But idk, I just thought that helping my friend out when the hospital is 5 minutes drive away is not a big deal. I decided to go anyway.
It ended up taking longer than 5 minutes cause I couldnt find him. When I did, his hand was wrapped in a towel that was soaked in blood. But when i removed it I was able to determine it wasnt deep enough to need stitches and I could fix it up at home.
Anyway, I took him to our place, and gave him first aid. The whole thing took about 15 minutes. While I was doing it, my gf kept circling us and even made a comment to my friend saying that he panicked cause of such a little wound? But in reality I'm sure that a lot of blood was spurting out cause of where he cut it, and anyone would panic in this case.
When he left he said he'd just take an uber home. Which was nice cause I didn't want to drop him off. But my gf made another jab for no reason and asked him why he can't drive (she can't drive so its a really weird thing to say.)
Afterwards, she asked me to drop her off at her place because she wasn't interested in the movie or staying over anymore. Today she's been ignoring me all day and only messaged once to tell me shes upset because I'm a 'pushover.'
Tbh I am nice to my friends, but theres a difference between that and being a pushover. Tbh, this has happened before in different circumstances and I always feel like I'm right and she's wrong.
Idk, what do you guys think? Am I in the right here.
TLDR: Picked up my friend and helped him out a bit, interrupting my time with gf. Now shes upset I'm a pushover.

As the title suggests, I'm kinda looking for someone who wants to drag me in their own adventure and add more spice to life. We can take things slow, and if this leads into something more serious, I'm down for it.
About me:

• 26 years old
• Working as a corpo slave
• (Returning) Law student
• 5'3
• From a Big 4 university (Tiger)
• Big dude (like big, but working on losing weight)
• Big Nerd and Anime fan
• Video gamer (console gamer)
• Can be engaged to discuss deep topics or serious matters ( i.e. social issues, political stances)

About you - I have no particular preference on this, you be yourself and I'm okay with that
If you're interested to know me, then feel free to shoot your message lang :3

I was going to post this in Japan. But it's not allowed. So I thought of presenting this here to get more direct answers:
I was looking for news related to the Japanese monarchy. I stumbled into an English site dedicated to news from Japan:
90% in Japan support idea of reigning empress: survey
Here are the 3 comments under this article that stood out to me:

1. "What's the point when the Emperor or Empress has no power nor Empire?" (12 likes/9 dislikes)
2. "I support the idea of disbanding the entire imperial system, along with all systems of royalty across the world." [...] (15 likes/ 13 dislikes)
3. "The 90 percent that don't count, like so many other decisions in Japanese political, socioeconomic scene." (13 likes/14 dislikes)

I believe the article was deleted because it was littered with negative comments. I'm not sure if they are Japanese because they used English profile names and they commented in English. The article is very recent so it seemed unusual to delete it for housekeeping. Also, Japan Today is a Tokyo-based online newspaper. So this must be the Chrysanthemum Taboo phenomenon.
According to Wikipedia: "The chrysanthemum taboo is the Japanese social taboo against discussion or criticism of the Emperor of Japan and his family, especially Emperor Hirohito/Showa (1901–1989)."
This made me think: Do ordinary Japanese avoid discussions of the Imperial Family?
I went to a random Japanese news site to look for an article on the same topic:
90% of people are in favor of a female emperor! The momentum for the realization of "Emperor Aiko" is growing within the Kishida administration, causing concern for "Princess Kiko's feelings"
I translated the Top 3 comments under this article:

1. "If the Kishida Cabinet were to steer the ship while ignoring the will of 90% of the people, wouldn't that be a failure of democracy? Furthermore, I feel that Princess Kiko's feelings are irrelevant, and that she should instead be considerate of the Imperial Family." (45,000 I empathize/I see 383/Hmm 2767)
2. "The world is moving towards a new era. I don't see the need to be obsessed with male lineage. Above all, it's wrong to put pressure on women for something they cannot control, such as having to give birth to a boy. Now that we don't know what will happen in the future with the coronavirus, war, earthquakes, etc., seeing Aiko's Mary-like smile is very reassuring and healing. I sincerely hope that Aiko will become the Emperor." (11,000 I empathize/I see 36/Hmm 524)
3. "I think Aiko is a good choice. The Emperor and Masako were educated, so I think they will be able to be close to the people. It's the Reiwa era, so I want them to stop treating women as superior to men. Looking at Mako, Kako, and Hisahito, Aiko, who grew up in the Imperial family, is the best!" (32,000 I empathize/I see 103/Hmm 1324)

It seems like people are not only talking about the Imperial Family, they also openly talk about members they like and don't like.
But this does not extend to Japanese pop culture. They barely mention the Emperor of Japan or his family. Most of it was indirect. Known examples:

1. In the anime Gate - Thus the JSDF Fought There! (2015) - The Emperor was hinted to allow the evacuation of civilians to the Imperial Palace.
2. In Sword Art Online (2012) - Kirito and Asuna were talking about the Imperial Palace's digital services being separate from the rest of the internet.

Weirdly, I can identify specific three older Japanese animation movies where the Emperor was directly mentioned:

1. In Hayao Miyazaki's Grave of the Fireflies (1998): A soldier committing seppuku cried out "Tenno Heika Banzai!" (Long live the Emperor!).
2. Memories (1995) - In the second part of the anthology, "Stink Bomb" mentions the Emperor refusing to leave Tokyo despite the mass evacuation of citizens.
3. A late 90s/early 2000s anime about the romance between then-Crown Prince Naruhito and Princess Masako. I forgot the name.

In criticism of the monarchy, I know an Australian journalist wrote a book detailing the difficulties Empress Masako experienced when she was Crown Princess. Japan managed to control its release in their country, with the help of nationalists who harassed publication houses, but they failed to control/persuade the author. It helps that he is a foreigner.
A political breach of taboo could be the end of a person's public service. In Post-war Japan history, I read about ministerial resignations caused by leaking Emperor Hirohito's opinions on sensitive issues, usually related to foreign and military affairs.
After the 3/11 tsunami, Diet member Taro Yamamoto gave a letter to Emperor Akihito about the plights of the victims. Politicians demanded his resignation. He likely heard some things from crazy nationalists. But today, he is still a Diet member.
So the Japanese people do talk about the monarchy. The extent of their opinions on the Japanese monarchy is mostly limited to news and gossip and written in Japanese so foreigners do not immediately notice the discourse around them. Anything more than that, like publishing critical deep-dives on the monarchy, references in fiction, and fictional portrayal, is rarely done and prone to attacks from nationalists. But breaking the taboo isn't as serious as it was during the Showa period. What do you think?

I need to add 2 snippets of css code to my website, only problem is I don't code. I asked Chatgpt on two different occasions and neither code worked. How can I get the proper codes? Is there a service that provides help. The reason is this is a new updated theme for me and I had to manually transfer a lot of pages. The issue I am having is that the testimonials and the posts all show them being published by me all on the same date. obviously, it not a good thing to have me showing as the author of every testimonial. And then having the date shown on the posts ages them. So I tried using the method the wordpress AI recommended to delete the author and publication date on testimonials and posts, but there is no disable button for my theme. So my question is, is there a source where I can pay someone to write the code?

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We are a fantastic match day pub & one of the few to show the games live! We hosted many Dortmund fans in 2014 & cannot wait to do so again!!! We are Wembley’s best kept secret & absolutely live to support & get involved with the action!
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10 years ago when you were last here was by far the craziest I’ve seen Wembley! I would imagine a good few here last time will remember the place. We pride ourselves on having the best atmosphere and being Wembley’s best kept secret!
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I hope our His Majesty or the higher authority can investigate this matter seriously about all my submissions and the facts that I stated here, to prevent the same problem from occurring again, & also to prevent more victims like me from being treated unfairly by the judicial system in Brunei.
The purpose of writing this article is to awaken & raise awareness about the judicial system in Brunei. And I think people have the right to know the facts & inappropriate judicial system in Brunei. My case number is HCCS 136 of 2009 & Appeal no. COACV/4/2023. I hope people can read through the judgment, & I hope the court will not remove the judgment from their website following the publication of this article.
After the partial profits of $195,300.00 paid to me by the plaintiffs, the plaintiffs & I entered into a Deed of Settlement Agreement to resolve all our disputes. A few months after signing the Deed of Settlement Agreement, the plaintiffs filed the proceeding against me, they also made up 2 major evidence a fraudulent payment voucher of $195,300.00 & a confirmation letter, accusing me of owing $195,300.00. However, the Court didn’t rely on our Deed of Settlement Agreement in this suit. Then, what does the law rely on if the Deed of Settlement Agreement is rejected in Brunei?
I stated in my pleadings & substantiated it with a laboratory report issued by the Ministry of Health Brunei, that the plaintiffs forged my signature on 24 copies of Standard Chartered Bank transaction forms to transfer $352,456.68 from our joint name account to their personal account. However, the court made no mention of this key fact in the judgment. Can the court cove conceal the pleadings & the facts that were submitted by the party in the judgment in Brunei?
As stated in the judgment, the court admitted & regretted that the court is unable to provide the hearing audio recording as the court did not arrange the audio recorder & a transcriber for our hearing ( 1 week of hearing), as a result, the correction of the inaccurate hearing transcription (notes of proceeding) provided by the court is therefore impossible. Thus, I applied for a retrial, but I was forced by the court of appeal to proceed with the appeal. Isn’t the hearing audio recording & accurate hearing transcription (notes of proceedings) are significant/ important evidence when it comes to appeal in Brunei?
In the judgment, the court of appeal rejected all 2 major evidence the fraudulent payment voucher & the confirmation letter submitted by the plaintiffs as the plaintiffs failed to comply with the Court Order to surrender the original Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 to the Ministry of Health Brunei for forensic examination (the plaintiffs told the court that they had lost the original Payment Voucher of $195,300.00), the court also rejected the Deed of Settlement Agreement & evidence submitted by me. Nevertheless, the court deemed the $195,300.00 as a loan to me without specifying any reason/ ground in the judgment. Isn’t it the judge’s obligation to specify the reason/ ground of their decision when it comes to judgment? Can the judge make a decision without giving any reason/ ground for the judgment in Brunei?
One of my counterclaims that I clearly stated in my pleadings against the plaintiffs, is that the plaintiffs will surrender all business accounts that they hid from me, & pay the balance of my profits from 2006 onwards as clearly stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 6. However, the court made no mention of this specific counterclaim in the judgment. Does the court have the right to simply waive/ delete/ conceal the counterclaim that was submitted by the party in the judgment in Brunei?
I am the defendant in the news that was published by the Borneo Bulletin on 28^th Dec 2023. The most crucial sentence of the article stated that “Chief Justice Dato Seri Paduka Steven Chong, sitting with Justice Michael Lunn and Sir Peter Gross, rejected Tan’s appeal, addressing issues regarding inaccurate notes of proceedings, reliance on the Deed of Settlement, credibility concerns, and the absence of forensic evidence for a payment voucher”. Apparently, this news was published a few months ago, but, the higher authority did not take any action to rectify the problems.
This is a business dispute between the 2 plaintiffs (my business partners) and me. The 2 plaintiffs, Foo & Lai had hidden the business accounts from me & refused to pay my profits of around a few hundred thousand since 2006 onwards, as a result, we had frequent quarrels, & our partnership turned sour. Sometime in December 2008, I again quarrelled with the plaintiffs over the profits they owned me, the plaintiffs didn’t have a choice but to pay my partial profit amounting to $195,300.00 subsequently, we entered into a Deed of Settlement Agreement in April 2009 prepared by our lawyer to resolve all our disputes & my resignation from the company. All agreed terms had been clearly stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement. Therefore, the court should rely on our Deed of Settlement Agreement in this suit.
In our Deed of Settlement Agreement, the partial payment of $195,300.00 was not mentioned it was a loan to me, on the contrary, the amount of $195,300.00 will be reinvested equally by 3 of us, which is $65,100 per person, to furnish the balance commitments/ outstanding bills of the company upon my resignation from the company, which is clearly stated in Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 4a, and the plaintiffs have to pay me the balance of the profits that they hid from me from 2006 onwards after the auditor finalizes the business account as clearly stated in Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 6. After we entered the Deed of Settlement Agreement, I complied with the term Clause 4a, I reinvested $20,000 from the part of the $65,100 & I asked the plaintiffs to surrender all business accounts to the auditor as agreed in Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 6, so that they could pay the balance of my profits. The plaintiffs then told me they had lost all business accounts, apparently, the plaintiffs do not want to surrender all the business accounts & pay me the balance of my profits. A few months later, the plaintiffs forged my signature on a fraudulent payment voucher of $195,300.00 & a confirmation letter, filed a proceeding against me & accused me of owing them $195,300.00
The plaintiffs’ case/ allegation is, they claimed that the $195,300.00 is a loan to me, and the $20,000.00 that I reinvested is a part payment of the loan, and thus I owe them $175,300.00. The plaintiffs submitted their 2 major evidence in this suit, a fraudulent payment voucher of $195,300.00 & a confirmation letter. I told the court that the plaintiffs forged my signature on the alleged payment voucher of $195,300.00 & the confirmation letter, subsequently, the Court Order was issued, ordering the plaintiffs to surrender the original Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 to the Ministry of Health Brunei for forensic examination, the plaintiffs then told the court that they had lost the original Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 & therefore failed to comply with the Court Order. Despite the court of appeal rejected the 2 major evidence the fraudulent payment voucher of $195,300.00 & the confirmation letter that the plaintiffs submitted, the court of appeal also found no evidence showed in the Deed of Settlement Agreement that the $195,300.00 was a loan to me, BUT, the court of appeal deemed the $195,300.00 to be a loan to me without giving any reason/ ground in the judgment.
My case to the court of appeal is,
1. As the trial judge, Judge Faisal didn’t arrange for an audio recording & a transcriber during our hearing (1 week of hearing), and he also provided an inaccurate hearing transcription (notes of proceeding) to us, as a result, the correction of the inaccurate hearing transcription ( notes of proceeding) is therefore impossible. This is clearly a BIG mistake made by the court. I told the court of appeal that only the hearing audio recording can prove lots of lies made by the plaintiffs & all the answers gave by both parties during the 1 week of hearing. Since the court is not able to provide the hearing audio recording, accurate hearing transcription & other grounds substantiated, I applied for a retrial. However, my application was rejected, & I was forced to proceed with the appeal by the court of appeal regardless of the absence of the important evidence the hearing audio recording & accurate hearing transcription.

1. The $195,300.00 was not a loan, & it was not stated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement. I told the court of appeal that the plaintiffs would have stated this in our Deed of Settlement Agreement if the $195,300.00 was a loan to me. In fact, the $195,300.00 was a partial payment paid to me, & the balance shall be paid to me after the plaintiffs surrenders all the business accounts to the auditor as stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 6. Moreover, if the fraudulent Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 that the plaintiffs submitted (their major evidence) was duly signed by me, the plaintiffs would not have told the court that they had lost the Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 when the Court Order ordered them to surrender the original Payment Voucher of $195,300.00 to forensic examination.
   
2. I substantiated with the laboratory report issued by the Ministry of Health Brunei that the plaintiffs forged my signature on the 24 copies of the Standard Chartered Bank transaction forms to transfer $352,456.68 from our joint name account to their personal accounts. I have filed this proceedings against the Standard Chartered Bank & the plaintiffs Foo & Lai, which the case HCCS 78 of 2012 is currently handling by the judge, Judge Soefri, & police case Ref. BKS/C116/2011 Is currently handling by Commercial Crime Investigation of Royal Brunei Police since 2011 ( it’s been 13 years). It is clearly submitted in my pleadings. However, the court simply waived & made no mention this specific critical point in the judgment. The court covered up/ concealed the facts in the judgment.
   

4. My counterclaim against the plaintiffs is, a payment of the dump truck, the plaintiffs failed to submit the evidence, whereas I submitted a solid evidence, the clearance letter & payment history issued by Baiduri Finance which was clearly stated that I fully paid for the said dump truck, and the said dump truck is clearly stated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 4d. However, the court rejected my evidence which was issued by Baiduri Finance & ignored the term stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 4d.
5. My other counterclaim is also, a Toyota Land Cruiser. It is clearly stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 5 that, the said Toyota Land Cruiser belongs to me, & thus the plaintiffs shall pay the proceeds to me after they sold the vehicle. But the court rejected & ignored the Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 5 & evidence.
6. My other counterclaim is, the plaintiffs will surrender all business accounts that they hid from me & pay the balance of my profits from 2006 onwards as clearly stipulated in our Deed of Settlement Agreement Clause 6. But the court simply waived & made no mention this specific counterclaim in the judgment.
I have written several letters to alert the court about all the legal points as mentioned above, BUT, I was ignored by the court.
Lastly, I do not know what would happen to me after the publication of this article, one thing is for sure, at least one man must have the courage to step out & tell the facts about flaws/ deficiencies in our judicial system in Brunei, make things change & improve, in order to prevent more victims suffering from the false judicial system & injustice. I am confident that our His Majesty, as a kind & fair Sultan, would investigate this case thoroughly & make rakyat feel safe again with the judicial system in Brunei.

In short-ish: I’m a recent grad (BS in IT), and a company that I was already working for as an assistant had an opening for a Jr. DE role and I decided to apply. I made them aware that although I’ve used Python, MySQL, AWS, and etc., there are plenty of tools and concepts I need to learn and brush up on.
During the hiring process, I didn’t have to do coding problems, I mainly just talked about professional and academic projects I’ve done and how I went about them. They are aware I don’t come from a SWE background, but another member of the team also started with limited experience, so maybe that played a role in me getting a shot at this.
I start next week, and although I have a long road ahead of me (which I do look forward to), I want to hear from those in the field about what I can do to bring my A-game or maybe where to focus my efforts first. I’m familiar with what they use for their stack and where they want me so start (validation and testing, then support & maintenance, so on), so I should probably review these things before my first day at least (?)
I’m confident they made the right choice for filling this role, but I’m also nervous and recognize how lucky I am to get this break.

Since the new Automations tool became available, I decided to use it to filter content based on key words and phrases instead of the Automoderator because it seems simpler. However, it appears to me that Automations only filters posts and not comments. I tried to alter my automod's code to only filter comments and not posts, but I'm doing something wrong and get an error message when I try.
The original code that's been successfully filtering both posts and comments:

type: any body (regex, includes): ["example1", "example2"] action: filter action_reason: The above submission should be reviewed based on key words. 

I thought all I needed to do was change the type to "comment" instead of "any", but apparently that's not right. What else do I need to change?

Motivational videos are inundated with "entrepreneurs" and individualistic idealism that poisons anything that can get me hyped up and motivated anymore. Type in "motivation" on YT and see toxic masculinity; bullshit ads and pitches; and Jordan Peterson plastered all over thumbnails.
Motivation has been commoditized to push individuals to buy into capitalist culture more and more. And I use "culture" loosely since capitalism zaps any semblance of actual culture and replaces it for whatever generates more profit. Instead of an inspirational story of a football player overcoming the odds and being successful after an injury, I'm blasted with "now be your own boss and become a billionaire too!" Instead of getting motivated to go to the gym with a feel good story, I'm distracted by the fact that the speaker telling the story is shilling out supplements, or attending pyramid scheme seminars to "motivate" their sellers.
This spirals me into a further depression because those tools that usually motivate people are now manipulative mechanisms to brainwash individuals into capitalistic culture. Help me go to the gym so I can become a healthier person, not question my masculinity! Help me get thru the day, not make me feel like a loser unless I open up a business. Even if there is no underlying message like that I feel like 99.99% of "motivational" videos are zapped of any true meaning anymore because of this overused capitalistic trend.
But because of that, I've found motivation elsewhere; stories about Che and Castro fighting reactionaries against the odds; Hugo Chavez's or Thomas Sankara's speeches; IRA fight songs; a doc on feminism flourishing under communism; trans liberation essayists from a socialist perspective...
Idk, and I weird for thinking that this motivates me more than typical "motivational" media?

okay so, we met this girl like 6 ish months ago, she messaged my bestfriend like 8 times to hangout and she finally just said yes for a group hangout, then when i was keeping a birthday for my bestfriend she basically volunteered herself to be thrown a bday too..i didn’t care because i was already throwing one so i just kinda added her into the party. whatever. since then i’ve consistently gotten bad vibes from her. like can’t trust her not a girls girl vibes. like she only favors the girl in the group who invited her (because she uses her for clout because she’s a lowkey famous influencer) and only deals with me because the girl is my bestfriend of 15 years so i’m kinda there no matter what. very obvious she’d rather me not be in the group but she deals with me because she knows i wouldn’t be kicked out. i admit i can be a bit closed off and reserved but i genuinely did try with this girl. even after the bad vibes i was like ykw she seems sweet let’s give her a chance and see whassup. i’ll start this off by saying i’m very insecure of how i currently look, i’ve gained a lot of weight the past year and a half and i am working to lose it now but it takes time. i don’t like being photographed nor do i like being videoed. this girl is ALWAYS CONSTANTLYYYYYYYYYYY recording. literally everything. it’s the most annoying fucking thing ever. she is incapable of being in the moment and enjoying life without having to always record which alright whatever man you do you. my issue comes when she always records me in the worst angles and posts it everytime. the first 5 times she did i politely asked her to delete it, by the 12-15th time i wasn’t so polite. she’ll lose videos or posts in clearly slouched over in, actively talking, IN THE MIDDLE OF SNEEZING? cmon dude. we decided to make a rule to send any pics she wants to post at all in the gc first after i got upset, she agreed and we drooped it. yet again, new reel, bad angle of me. argument. “okay i’m sorry i will send it next time. i promise” and lo and behold…2 days ago..new reel..BAD. ANGLE. AGAIN. and i know, it’s not that serious, but just seeing the picture of myself hurts. i had a breakdown because of it. i wouldn’t care that much if every single time she posted my family wouldn’t reach out to tell me how bad and how fat i look, which is a different story. i’d like to mention that pretty much all of her friends are actually my friends, the whole group is a group i established basically. originally my friends who i kinda made all meet each other and became a group. we used to just be us but now she’s always constantly there. i realized at a certain point she could tell i kept going after her so started to treat the other friends in the group so good to the point they now are like “well she’s done a lot for us so we can’t cut her off now..” even tho they wanted too like 2 months ago. and because she thinks she has a established space in the group now she’s gotten rude af to me. talking about “things are different now. i’m not afraid of being cut off” and she’s been saying whatever she wants to me now as well, being rude af. i expressed this to my bestfriends and they just said they’d don’t wanna be involved and that the girl did a lot for them so they aren’t just gonna use her and dip because she is nice. but they refuse to see that she is nice TO THEM, not me. so basically, i don’t want her in the group anymore. i don’t feel comfy around her because im always on edge now and i can’t even relax thinking she’ll record me the second i do. aitah for wanting to get rid of her?

My name is Jeff Windmueller, I am a Captain and Public Affairs Officer for the Army Reserve Aviation Command, headquartered in Fort Knox, Ky.
As an immense fan of Jeff Arcuri, I follow him regularly and particularly enjoy the pensive nature he has shown around our service members. Every time he blows a kiss to a Marine, I'm reminded of my grandfather, uncle and cousin, all Marines who would have laughed and appreciated his candor.
I've been able to capture his most recent video, which included an exchange with a service member and veteran of the Iraq War. I have added some video of our recent missions and would like to collaborate on our Instagram. Unfortunately, our Reddit account is very new, which means it doesn't always pass the muster for posts/direct messages. And our Instagram only recently surpassed 2,000 followers, which means your grandmother probably has more just based on relatives alone.
I'm hoping this post makes it out to the public and would greatly appreciate support in having a collaborative effort completed. But, I also want Jeff's approval before releasing anything. I have too much admiration to let something that might embarrass him or create controversy.
To see our style of videos, you can visit us on our Instagram at: army_reserve_aviation_command
If you would like to see one of our more humorous, less serious posts we like to do:
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Hello Reddit Community,
I hope this message finds you well. My name is Tony, and I’m reaching out to you with a humble request for assistance.
I am in my late 20s over the past few months/years, I have been dealing with social anxiety and chronic depression. It's affecting my well being. The only interaction I have with people at all is at work.
I live alone and it's hard to manage the bills, especially after I started seeing a therapist which I have to pay for out of pocket. On top of that , the therapy conflicts with my work schedule and it's not like I can switch shifts "just becuase I want to".
If you are able to contribute, any amount would be deeply appreciated. Your generosity will go directly towards groceries and utilities. Even if you’re unable to donate, sharing this post with others who might be willing to help would mean the world to me.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story. Your support and kindness give me hope during this difficult time.
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With gratitude, Tony

I separated from my husband a few months ago. I'll be honest, I came to terms with the fact that our marriage wasn't going to last years ago. I tried and I begged for change but it did no good. I endured his inability to hold down a job and contribute financially, his substance abuse issues, his constant lying, his unwillingness to help around the house or with our son, his ADHD, his untreated mental illnesses, his inattentiveness, his 2 year emotional affair, he also sexually assaulted me for a number of years etc. It's been a difficult almost 8 years. My final straw was when I found out he commited a felony 2 years prior and kept it from me and then lost his job (for the 11th time) a week later. I left a few months after that.
Admittedly, I fell out of love about 4 years ago. I've done a lot of therapy. I'm done with the marriage. Since we split, he has lied, bullied, harassed, threatened me etc. It has calmed down a bit but he keeps telling me he is not accepting a separation. Anyway, that's a bit of back story.
I decided since I've spent almost a decade looking after this man and completely neglecting myself, I'm taking myself on a trip to the UK (I lived there for a number of years and haven't been back in almost 13 years). He is livid. And he's paranoid that I'm going to meet someone/sleep with someone/fall in love with someone. I am open to the idea of dating and having sex. It may seem soon to some people but honestly, I feel like I haven't even been in a proper relationship in well over 7 years. I haven't even been taken on a date in many, many years. I was done with the marriage long before I actively ended it.
My husband has been trying to coerce me for sex since the day I ended things with him. I have said no. He has said he is a (self diagnosed) sex addict, that he gets his validation from sex, that he needs it and that I'm crossing HIS boundaries by denying him sex. That I am his wife and it's my duty to fulfill those needs for him when requested (you can see how this attitude led him to SA me for years). He admitted he downloaded Tinder (and then deleted it that night, allegedly). I have no feelings about it. I told him if he wants to get laid, he's a free man. He can do that. He insists that he hasn't. But this comes from a man who says unless I set specific boundaries for him, he doesn't know what the boundaries are. I have no evidence other than the verbal red flags and I guess his general disrespectful behaviour to suggest that he's probably already slept with someone by now if it's not something he already did while we were together. Again, not my business. But he's said if I go to the UK and I meet someone etc he will hate me, make my life a living hell etc. That I would be betraying him because we're supposed to be working towards fixing things (I never agreed to that). The thing is, I've been in touch with some old friends from the UK and one of them has expressed interest in taking me on a date. I am also interested and we have been chatting pretty frequently. I told my husband that I was open to the idea of going on a date but not that I had already been asked. He was very upset. I live in a country where if you're separated, you can't commit adultery. So, I'm not legally doing anything wrong. Ethically, maybe, I guess, because it's soon after the separation and my husband is still trying to "fix" things (he's failed at every opportunity to show me he's changing thus far). I have told him clearly I'm not of the same mind. Am I doing something wrong? Do I owe it to him to tell him my intentions to go on this date and see where this thing goes with this other person? What would you do?

(Long distance - 1HR flight) 28F & 29M
So me and this girl of the same age that I met, we have been talking to each other for about 3 months already. Of course butterflies and all the sweet acts & messages led us to liking each other. She first noticed my effort on talking to her and appearing on her video calls. Little by little we had our fun and fell for each other. She knows my background, my family almost everything.
I want to be as transparent as I can, because I want to her to see how serious I am to her, in having a relationship with her. We haven't met each other in person but we get to see each other everyday in video calls.
As a decent man, and since we are apart from each other. I told her I want to meet her in person, the feeling is mutual as she said - "I want to see you too. We'll see each other when the time comes. But for not now."
This got my hopes high up. I knew right then and there that she must have a good reason to not meeting her yet.
Last night, she wanted to talk to me about something. We chatted for a good 30 minutes then things got serious. She had realizations in the past few days. She asked me of my ex, of how we broke and how long we had been together. I answered, the reason that my ex fell out of love and we have problems that we were not able to fix mutually. We were 5 years then before we broke up.
She said, she is dating someone. and they have been together for so long she doesn't want to lose what they have. (did not ask how long) I said I respect her decision and thanked her for being honest with me. It really broke my heart hearing those words from her.
I told her that I respect her decision and thanked her for her honesty.
Now every guy's dilemma - She wants us to be friends. But I doubt this, because everytime we see each other through video, she is way to sweet for a friend to me whenever when I'm around. She wants me to be with her most of the time.
What can you say about this? Is she and her boyfriend on a rocky relationship and keeps me at bay when the time comes?
I know my worth I won't be pushing myself to her. If she completely falls in love or me - I'll demand to end the previous relationship and we'll sort things out, until she is ready for me. Any advice? I really do love this girl. and I'm serious for her. TIA

I keep having dreams of you. I'm tired of seeing your name pop up on those text messages - that surprisingly I could read in my dreams - telling me that you're not okay. I want to keep asking if you're okay.
But I know I can't force you to tell me you're not okay.
I know it's not my place and I know you don't have to tell me you're not okay or give me all the details you'd rather me never hear.
I just wish I didn't keep pressing for a response, fully knowing the answer would be silence or "I'm okay". I wish I knew what I was doing so I could make sure I wasn't making you step away.
You don't need me nor want me around. Maybe you do.
I don't want to assume things anymore. I want an answer so badly. No matter how many times I tell myself to stop or to drop you, I can't.
You can go back on your words, but I refuse to leave you behind until you tell me to leave.
I wish I wasn't always so anxious of your well-being. It's not my responsibility.
I hope at least my next dream about you will tell me to go away. Maybe then I'll feel like I'm unwanted.
I hate being the kind of person where I won't leave someone alone until they tell me to or that I feel so used to the point of mental and emotional exhaustion. I'm so tired yet I refuse to give up.
I just want to give people a chance. I know I shouldn't. I know I should leave people alone. I know I should stop thinking about you and wanting to still be around you. I know I shouldn't date or love you. I know all of this, yet here I am begging the universe to give you back to me. Even though you don't belong with me. Just writing this makes me feel guilty for wanting you.
I hope I can heal from you and the others. I hope one day, I can feel comfortable hearing your name and just hoping you're okay and eating well instead of wanting you to tell me you're okay and eating well.
I've stopped crying over it. This wound will heal.
Get home safely. Drink water and eat good food. Have fun and enjoy your experiences. Have a good birthday. I'll keep you in my heart. Friends, situationship, or strangers. I am deeply sorry I'm like this.

I recently had an epiphany when my therapist asked me for like the third time whether I had ever been assessed for adhd or not, and then crucially, sent me some resources about what that might look like in professionals.
I had previously discounted the notion, in part, because i did fine in school and didn't struggle too much at university (twice - I also have a law degree) - it's only as a professional that I have really struggled, and am finding the struggle getting progressively worse. And in part, because my partner has adhd and is quite different to me in many respects.
However, I reviewed what she sent me and then went down a whole rabbit hole of learning about different presentations and traits of people with adhd and felt pretty called out by it all when I looked at the inattentive traits. It would explain an enormous amount about the way I've moved through life and the struggles that I have had.
More importantly to me, I thought, 'if I do have adhd, I can just accept that I suck at certain ways of working and make accommodations for that without blaming myself endlessly for being awful'... and even if I don't have adhd, clearly I have some similar traits and should perhaps extend myself the same compassion.
I would like to get assessed for adhd, however, I am concerned that either they won't take me seriously due to my background, or just that they will assess that I don't have it, and try as I might, I will no longer be able to extend that level of compassion to myself for failing to get stuff done.Or live up to my (self imposed ridiculously high) standards.
I'm in two minds - I would like to get tested, but in the other hand, I've made it this far (I'm in my late 30s, and female for reference), and maybe I would just be better off giving myself the benefit of the doubt that perhaps that is the issue and moving on without opening the 'what ifs' is its not.
Any one have any thoughts or relatable experiences?

There's a group of teachers who have been at my school for 10yrs+. They are really nice and supportive people to your face, honestly, some of the nicest people you'll ever meet, however, they are horrific at gossiping behind your back.
Our department (12 total, but usually lunch has between 6-10) is pretty close overall, and we eat lunch together almost everyday. These 4 teachers send each other private text messages during lunch and gossip about everyone else. I only know this because 2yrs ago we hired a new teacher who really struggled and was put on an improvement plan (she really was a disaster) and one of them casually mentioned some of the comments being made about the new teacher in the text group. Since then I've started taking notice of how they send text messages and exchange looks while other people are talking.
I was a new teacher at this school 4yrs ago and I know I struggled a bit to fit in. It makes me uncomfortable to know that they were mostly likely texting mean things about me.
In the last few months, the more I see them texting each other during lunch, especially when one of the newer teachers is telling a story or asking for advice, the more I feel uncomfortable. They are the senior staff in this department. I get that they need an outlet, but the entire thing comes across as a serious mean girl vibe.
It's a hard go- I value their support as teachers, but as people I have a hard time knowing that they can be so mean-spirired.
Would you call them out? I genuinely feel like they don't understand how toxic they are being with their secret group chat.